(Closed) please tell me im over exaggerating ?

posted 9 years ago in Wellness
  • poll: Should i be so upset?
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  • Post # 32
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    @Baileyh: oohhh…the no-gift thing is weird too.  I mean, you’re not participating in the trip and, if you’ve always exchanged gifts in the past, this is weird.  I can understand you finding that…..uncomfortable and not that welcoming.  It’s like “hey, we’re going away because you wouldn’t spend Christmas with us and to further alienate you from our Christmas, we’re not exchanging gifts with you because the trip you can’t go on is the gift…that we aren’t giving to you”.  Awkward.

    I’m sorry.  I’d be hurt to.  Not about the gifts, trip, etc. but because they seem to excluding you.

     

     

    Post # 36
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Honestly, I get why you feel slighted and frustrated, but I think you need to let it go. It seems like this kind of behavior for them is normal. It’s too bad that this is your first Christmas experience with them but I would be happy to not go on vacation with these people! It sounds like you don’t even really enjoy their company that well, so why would you want to spend a week in Mexico with them? It seems like they just went about this thing in the wrong way altogether.

    Just forget about it and enjoy the holidays with your family. And don’t worry about the extended family drama – it’s not your problem.

    Post # 37
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    It sounds like the in-laws could be going through some sort of crazy mid-life gonna do what we want hng everyone else crisis.  I’d claim it’s empty nest, but you say there’s still a daughter living with them.

    I’m sorry they are being this way, and if it’s any cosolation, at least you know it’s not directed at you or your Darling Husband, as they seem to have screwed over the whole family this year by not notifying ANYONE of their upcoming trip, and they don’t seem to care it’s caused holiday turmoil for all.

    Do your best to enjoy the holiday with your folks, get through this year and worry about next year as it comes.  It’s kida like how my brother decided to deal with our deadbeat dad:  “I’ll take what he offers me as it comes, but I won’t expect anything from him ever again.”

    You’re from what sounds like a closer, more reliable family – your H is not.  You can’t expect them to be reliable or keep their promises if that’s just not who they are.  At least your H isn’t like them.

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