(Closed) Please tell me other people don’t live in show homes.

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Post # 47
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I am 50, happily married, no kids, multiple dogs and a smaller house. I recently retired early from being a middle school teacher and am now a full time student in a medical field. My house is a freaking mess…and I mean sometimes it is downright dirty, You would never know it from looking at me, as I wear clean clothes, always have make up on and lok very pulled together. It does drive me crazy…makes me angry and anxious BUT, right now, my grades mean everything to me. I am desperately trying to maintain an A average and I have decided that is more important to me than my living conditions. I completely nderstand where you are coming from, but I just keep telling myself that “this too shall end.”  I keep saying I need a cleaning lady but money is tight AND there is no way I could have anyone in with the personal protection dog. Too much stress and it would require toomuch of my time to manage her. Sure, there are some people whose houses are very well maintained (my parents, for example – but they have no pets and a cleaning lady). 

If it is time that you are lacking, like me, you need to accept your situation. If it is becasue you are depressed and cannot get moving enough to clean (or just simply hate it) get some help. Maybe a college kid or person who needs some extra cash? 

Otherwise, give yourself a break….I always say that it is not so bad that ACC will not take my animals away, and that has to work for me tight now!

Post # 48
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637 posts
Busy bee

Can your husband not help? Having fewer things makes it easier to keep your place clean. My apartment is cluttered right now, so I am in the process of selling and donating things and figuring out how to save space. A messy house/apartment is definitely depressing.

Post # 49
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Busy bee

Especially with this time of year upon us, most of us surely has some type of mess in our homes! Don’t mind those 20 rolls of wrapping paper shoved in the corner over there! Or the mass sticker labels spread across our dining room table! 

Post # 50
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Bee you are pregnant, go easy on yourself! You are literally carrying another human in you lol sit back and munch on your favorite snack 🙂 

Fiance and I are house hunting currently and I kid you not, we went to see a hoarder house-now that’s a “mess”. I think your house is fine as long as it doesn’t have to be gutted to the studs like the hoarder house we saw. The only good thing about that property was the immaculately maintained barn haha 

Post # 51
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Buzzing bee

don’t feel bad! 

we live in an apartment currently, and we can’t even keep that tidy all of the time hehe.

my mum swears by things like “cleaning as you go” when cooking, and also tidying/straightening one room a day. I just can’t do it though. seems to work for her though so if you’re keen to get tidier then maybe just set a little schedule. 

you are eight months pregnant though! allow yourself a bit of leeway bee xo

Post # 52
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

My house is very clean with everything in its correct place. I can’t sit down and relax if there’s a mess. I also have OCD which requires medication and therapy for me to be well enough to work. I have no control over my OCD at home, the routines run my life and I have massive panic and anger attacks if something goes wrong.

I wish my house looked more ‘lived in’ as you describe because it would mean some relief from constant anxiety. As long as your place is hygienic and not dangerous to your soon to be baby I reckon you’re fine.

Post # 53
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Bumble bee

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v123a :  Don’t worry about it, there’s nothing dangerous about your house.

To be honest me & DH are the opposite, we have one of the show home types as we are minimalist and clean freaks but I’m not necesserily saying thats a good thing. We spend a lot of time stressing about it and are probably on the OCD spectre!

I imagine it is your pregnancy related anxiety kicking in. I’m only 8 week pregnant and have been experiencing similar anxiety recently. I’ve been looking for reasons I wont be a good Mum and feeling guilty about it. So I think you are now using the house as your reason for not being capable as a parent, but it only the anxiety creating irrational thoughts. If you did have a ‘show home’ the anxiety would just find another thing to cling to.

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