- 8 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
Hello wonderful bees! You guys have no idea how much help this site has been~ reading your posts and gathering ideas… but I still managed to have huge dress drama. I am now on my fifth dress. Yes, I admit it~ I’ve become an obsessed, anxious dress junkie. Part of the issue is my well-meaning mom, who rushes in to buy each gown I maybe, kinda, well… I don’t know… sorta like. The last time we went to look at a gown, I asked her to please wait, that we should go to lunch and think on it. As I came back from the dressing room she was paying for the dress. She sees it as just a decision that needs to be made and moved on from, and that I am just too picky. Hmmm… isn’t that like settling for the wrong man? But anyway, she is only trying to keep me stress free, not realizing that it’s having the exact opposite effect as I worry over having to tell her I don’t want to wear the dress(es) she’s bought.
So, now I have managed to return one gown, sold another, am trying to sell the third and see snaps up the fourth before I can speak. I tried on the fifth today, on my own, and think this is the one. I’d actually drawn a picture of what I wanted in the beginning of all this dress search and this THAT dress, down to the material. I feel natural and pretty in it. I don’t have to stuff the bodice and I don’t feel like I’m wearing someone else’s dress. To explain the stuffing bodice thing… even after the seamstress (who is amazing) pinned the dress to fit as it would with alterations, and the bodice is tight enough to not slip, there is still so much extra room that it has to be stuffed. Pads aren’t a big deal, but this took a padded bra and two sets of cutlets… to fit a dress that’s cut for a chest that large. It’s not that it won’t “fit” with altering, it’s that it’s made to flatter and support a large bust, In My Humble Opinion.
Here’s the problem. If I choose the dress I love, I have no idea how my mom will react and I certainly don’t want my wedding to cause a family fued. I will have to sell two gowns, repay her, and purchase the new gown, which is obviously more all together than I ever planned to spend. Should I just keep the gown my mom bought, to keep the peace and save money, or follow my heart and get the dress I want him to see me in?
I am frustrated with myself for not having the courage to speak up for myself and frustrated with her for rushing the dress purchases.
Do I just wear the dress she bought and make the best of it… or wear the dress that I want to walk down the aisle in~ and have that moment when he sees me and I feel amazing. I think already know the answer, but I can’t imagine how I would tell her.
1st pic is the Alvina Valenta 9702 sample gown my mom bought:
2nd pic is the dress I love:
Sorry for the busy sister’s house in the background on the first pic…
Any thoughts you guys have, thank you in advance. This is not at all what I expected when I started to plan this!