(Closed) Please tell me this isn't what an O feels like. (vibrator question) :-(

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

Oh it definitely exists!!! And yes, that would be my reccomendation.  It sounds like your current system isn’t working, but a “gentler” tool might help some.  

I usually shop for such things at http://www.adamandeve.com and if you use the promo code “LOVESEX” you’ll get a discount as well (the code is from a podcast I listen to occasionally, Love & Sex w/ Lex, they actually have a whole show devoted to talking about the different options in this particular product line).  

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

That happens and it usually happens when I have been doing whatever I’m doing too hard or too long.  When it happens, it is almost always helpful to take a few seconds off and start again with a lighter touch. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I agree – I’d get a gentler one or stay further away from the bullseye, to where you can feel the stimulation but it’s not too powerful.  Keep at it for a while and the sensations should build…

Embarassed Not awake enough yet for this type of conversation, haha!

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Definitely try a gentler touch, and also a bit higher than the actual tip of the clitorus.  The clitorus (and it’s nerve endings) extend way into the body, so you may find it more pleasurable to apply to pressure on the spot about the clitoral hood.

Don’t give up!! 🙂  You’ll find what works for you!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Kempinski San Lawrenz, Gozo

this is SO common. no it’s not an orgasm. When that feeling goes away and you’re still stimulating your clitoris, that probably means you’re going to have an O soon 🙂 but if it DOESN’T go away, try something gentler, or more effectively, LUBE UP!

 

EDIT: wow. just re-read that. I was a bit forward. haha.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

Direct stimulation of the clit can be painful for some women who are more sensitive than others. I can NOT handle direct stimulation, I get the feeling you describe, almost like an electric current that hurts. Try using the vibrator on the areas all around the clit or even try using the vibrator over your panties and not directly on your skin. Also, you don’t need to be pressing the vibrator continuously onto your clit. Move it around, start and stop, etc. And yes, it might be helpful to get something that has multiple speeds or is a different size. For me, not liking direct contact, something with a wider surface area is better. That way it’s not tons of vibration packed into one tiny intense spot. 

I like this one, it sort of curves and drapes over the whole area: http://www.lelo.com/index.php?collectionName=femme-homme&groupName=LILY

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree with the PPs to try for more gentle and less direct stimulation.  I get what you are describing when I use the high setting on my vibrator but the lower speeds are pure pleasure!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Question. Are you using a rubber bullet sleeve? Cause if you’re doing it with just the metal against our skin, that could be a problem. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

@sugarbee1:  your clit is probably too sensitive for the intensity. find one with multiple speeds/ intensity setting and start on the lowest and work your way up to the one that’s best for you

Post # 13
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Busy bee

@sugarbee1:  It has 10 different speeds and 5 different vibration settings. LOL. Look on Amazon, you can find it for about 40% off the price. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@sugarbee1:  Try keeping your panties on as well…sometimes that can help lessen the effect. I know exactly what you’re talking about and it can TOTALLY be painful if that happens. Try staying off to either side of your bullseye as well 😉

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I wanted to add to this that when you have the big O, you KNOW you’ve had it. You feel it rising up in you and after you’ve had one you feel like you’ve had a peak feeling and want to lie down and sleep!.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It sounds like when you do have the big O you are extremely sensitive. As time goes on it will just feel sensitive and it wont hurt. The next time you are having the O pull back on the press of the bullet and that will reduce the pain until your body gets use to it.

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