Post # 1
I just recently got my dress, and while many may not think it is anything all that special, I absolutely LOVE it. I really didn’t have a lot to spend on a dress and it was an inexpensive deal from David’s Bridal, so it was perfect for my budget. Well, a few weeks ago we had a family gathering at my parent’s house. My mom is doing the shortening hem on my dress, so while we were there, a lot of people were begging me to see me in my dress. My mom and sisters loved the dress. However, my grandparents and cousin seemed greatly disappointed. A few weeks prior to my engagement, one of my other cousin’s actually got engaged as well. She went out and purchased her dress right away. She spent about 4 grand on her dress, and I clearly spent MUCH less.
Right after trying on my dress, my grandma told me in a less than enthusiastic tone that she thought it was pretty, and then proceeded to go off about how gorgeous and detailed and beautiful my cousin’s dress is. Granted, I will admit that my cousin’s dress is way prettier and detailed than mine. But at about $3800 more than what I spent, I guess it had better be. lol. Anyway, I was just really upset because she sat there, right in front of me in my dress, and explained to my mom and sisters how gorgeous this dress is. For literally like 10 minutes.
Also, my grandpa, who is a man of very few words, cried when he saw my cousin’s dress. He just smiled and gave me a hug (which was very nice still…) I really need to get over being jealous. I guess I am just bummed that I didn’t have as much to spend on a dress and I just wanted my little moment to be told that I was beautiful surrounded by my family and I didn’t get that.
Sorry, Bees! Guess I just needed to vent about my weird case of dress jealousy!!!
Thanks for listening!
Post # 3
Ahh that is crappy!! There is nothing wrong with being a budget bride so don’t let it get you down… but I will have to admit that I think every bride-to-be has her moments of jealousy over bigger-budget wedding items. It’s human nature to want thing that we can’t have but I tell ya what… I think $4k on a dress is outrageous, but I’m totally a bargain hunter! 🙂
Oh also, I think sometimes grandmas tend to loose their filter. I’m sure she didn’t mean to upset you! Did you mention the price difference to her?? That may put things into perspective for everyone! All in all… take a deep breath, smile and just remember that you love YOUR dress and that’s what really matters!!
Post # 4
I really don’t think that people’s reactions have anything to do with the dress itself and the dress being $400 or $4000. I just don’t. I think that it has to do with seeing YOU in a dress that was made for YOU (and this is the important part) in the right setting during the right occasion.
This was in the middle of a party, when people’s attention is divided as it is, and you were not all gussied up–no veil, no shoes, no jewelry, and no bridal glow! Trust me, when the day comes, you WILL be gorgeous and everyone will love the way you look.
It’s not a competition between you and your cousin. Some people will prefer her dress; some will prefer yours–and that’s life. It’s the same way that I prefer some of my friends’ dresses to dresses my other friends wore. But if you asked me who, among my friends, was the most beautiful BRIDE, I wouldn’t be able to choose. I doubt your family will be able to either.
Post # 5
@SuperShopper: i agree!! 4k for a dress?? no offense to those who spend that much but i’d rather use 4k on something more useful than a 1-time dress….
i also think that maybe you’ll get a different reaction on ur wedding day, when you have all ur accessories, make up and hair done….but even if you don’t what matters is that you love it!!! tho i can relate, and it is very hard not to be jealous, i would feel as you do!!! but in the end what truly matters is that you love it… 🙂
tho i can relate, and it is very hard not to be jealous, i would feel as you do!!! but in the end what truly matters is that you love it… 🙂
Post # 6
@JennyW1: This was in the middle of a party, when people’s attention is divided as it is, and you were not all gussied up–no veil, no shoes, no jewelry, and no bridal glow! Trust me, when the day comes, you WILL be gorgeous and everyone will love the way you look.
exactly!!! you said it better than me… lol 🙂
Post # 7
The laugh is on her! She spent $4K on a dress to wear ONCE. Umm..hahaha at cousin! Kudos to you for being a smart bride! And even if no one else but you and FH love your dress, who cares? It’s about you and him anyways!
Post # 8
My grandparents aren’t around anymore to even get a reaction out of them. I feel your dissapointment. Just think!! She had to buy an expensive dress, just to look at good as you do in your dress!! I spent $850 on mine and everyday I think I should have got a less expensive dress. I think your grandparents have forgotten that the bride is supposed to wear the dress, not the dress wear the bride. When you are put all together on your day, you will get all the wow’s!!
Post # 9
I am very sorry that you did not get the reaction you were hoping. However, I am sure your dress is beautiful and that you will look beautiful in it. You were smart for not spending 4k on a dress you only wear one day! Do not regret your decision if you like your dress girlie… SMILE, dont focus your energy on a dress.. you are marrying the man of your dreams!!! So much more important 🙂
Post # 10
Aww, you aren’t being a baby. I would be upset by their reactions, too. I second all the PPs who said you’re smart for not spending too much. You’ll be gorgeous on your wedding day, too! 🙂
Post # 11
Thanks everyone for your awesome words of encouragement!!! You are all right, of course. I didn’t want to spend a lot on a dress when I could be using my money toward our honeymoon or something like that. Sooooo it does help to have it put into perspective. I just need to remember that for the future 🙂 Now, I am all about focusing on having the best day possible with my FH!! Sooo excited 🙂
Post # 12
Thats the spirit 🙂 Honeymoon funding…. so much more worth it!!
Post # 13
HOPEFULLY MY COMPUTER WORKS-SORRY THIS IS IN ALL-CAPS. LOL. i agree with the others that you will be beautiful on your day. They are seeing you in the dress-getting pinned up and all-so it doesn’t even fit you yet, you aren’t all made-up, hair etc. Plus you can totally rock some gorgeous accessories for a lot less than 4K! You’ll have to post some photos for us anyway-when you get a chance! More $ for your honeymoon is great. Plus You have a great resource right here for assistance anytime. 🙂
Post # 14
I was a budget bride too. My dress was $100, so don’t think you’re the only one. I couldn’t justify to myself spending thousands on a dress for one day. I’m sure you look gorgeous, and when you’re all dressed up on the big day, you’ll blow them away.
Post # 15
yeah whatever I bet you’re prettier!!
just wait till they see you at the wedding all dolled up!
Post # 16
Rgeddy hehehe love it!!!
and I so know how you feel I got the dress that looked good but wasnt anything special,, I know I made the right choice but….. lol