Post # 1
Because I am starting to freak out.
I started taking a medication last year and steadily gained 25 pounds (my doctor says the medication affects metabolism…thanks, Doc). And none of it has come off. I’ve been exercising, eating right but trying not to go overboard and get frantic; I’ve been putting my energy into self-acceptance, but today it’s not quite working.
See I have this problem that I think I look sort of okay in the mirror but whenever I see a picture of myself, I can’t believe that I’m that big. I think it’s the shock of different angles and whatnot, but all of a sudden, the fact that I am still the same weight and going to be in pictures hit me today and I’m having a meltdown that I won’t be a beautiful bride; I’ll be “the plus-sized one, everyone will be thinking I let myself go, and that ALL that will become apparent and memorialized forever when I see the pictures.
Post # 3
I can’t speak to wedding photos – but I was shocked that I was pleased with my engagement photos. I’m always the cynical girl, totally critical of how I look, and sure, there are a few that I don’t like…but for the most part I’m so excited about how we look together and how happy we look, that I didn’t feel like I had enough energy left to be critical.
I hope you are able to overlook this on your day! It would just be so sad for it to take over your day.
Post # 4
@JennyW1: I feel that way, too! I gained like 12lbs this year, and I still feel pretty when I look in the mirror. I’ve never been photogenic, but I can’t believe that’s how I look in pictures. I still have a year to try and lose, and I see you have a while yet, too, so maybe some of it will come off, even if not all of it. I also have been “practicing” finding a flattering angle and different poses that look best.
Post # 5
Wedding dresses are designed to flatter your figure, no matter what size it is. I’m a size 18, but here is a picture of me in my dress, and I’m not complaining one bit!
Post # 6
I can’t offer any reassurance as we haven’t had our photos done yet (wedding is this weekend), but I just wanted to say I know how you feel! I like the way I look in the mirror, but 9 times out of 10 when I see a photo of myself, I cringe. I actually didn’t want to get a photographer for this reason, but I was talked into it. I do think that a high quality lens and knowledge of lighting make ALL the difference in the world–so I am hopeful!
Post # 7
Thank you ladies. It’s really good to know I’m not alone. And I figure if YOU ALL are crazy for thinking that you won’t look beautiful on your wedding day, I’m probably crazy as well 🙂
2dBride, that’s a gorgeous dress and your figure looks amazing in it!
Post # 8
I was soo worried about how I would look in my engagement and wedding photos for pretty much the same reason – I think I look okay in the mirror, but a photo shows how big I really am. I was about the same weight for both engagement and wedding pics, and that was only about 10 pounds less than my highest weight ever. However, I absolutely love, love, love our photos! There’s a few where I got overly critical of myself but we just look so happy and in love that it totally overshadows everything else 🙂
engagement pics – http://southernreflectionsstudio.com/blog/?p=593
wedding pics – http://southernreflectionsstudio.com/blog/?p=818
Post # 9
@beginningtofly: I just flipped through, and while this is a bit of a strange thing to say, yours is the first wedding I’ve noticed the COUPLE as opposed to just the bride–must be love! Seriously, you guys are adorable and you looked beautiful. The photographs depict a joyous tone to your wedding. Thank you for sharing them.
Post # 10
You look great. Don’t worry. Another suggestion, if this helps and you really don’t like them, is anniversary pics. I have a friend who gets them done every year for their anniversary and a session is only about $300 instead of several thousand. They get to wear a few different outfits, look sexy, and get some great/romantic shots for themselves.
Post # 11
im happy to know that i am not the only person who feels like this… Ive gained 20lbs being with my FH…and Ive noticed in pictures that i have a new friend… a second chin… I feel like my face has ballooned and my eyes are just in the background… …Im so worried i am going to hate the picture memories of our day
Post # 12
I was worried about this with engagement photos. While I am not technically plus-sized, I am very self-conscious about my weight in relation to my height and especially about spots where I’m not toned, etc (I’m 5′.)
In the end, there were some pictures that I could not stop seeing the flaws in, but many, many more that I loved and was able to look past things that may have bothered me. The wonderful thing about photographers is that they know what angles are flattering and they take so many pictures that there are bound to be good ones.
One other thought… there was one picture in particular that our photographer featured on her blog that I just hated myself in. I then looked at my fiance’s expression in the picture, and he just looked so happy and in love. That made me feel so much better about some inconsequential flaw that no one else likely noticed.
Post # 13
@JennyW1: Aww, thank you!
Post # 14
I lost 48 pounds for the wedding so felt really thin and beautiful the whole day…until I saw photos of myself that friends had taken. Even though I am not a plus size now, whenever I smile my face does this thing where I get a double chin – and as I was smiling most of the day, I dislike my face in almost all the pictures. Gaarhg! I honestly don’t think there was anything I could have done about it though, it’s a posture thing more than anything, and I think the weight of the dress and pull of the veil were forcing me into a certain type of unflattering posture….Everyone else seems to think I look beautiful though, so maybe I’ll find some pictures I like better (we haven’t had our professional pics back yet, these are friends snapshots).
Post # 15
This might be slightly un-related, but I felt sick the first time I saw my wedding photos. I couldn’t stop thinking, “these are horrible!” I put them away for a few days, then got them back out to sort through. Once I pulled out my favorite 150 shots (we had over 2000), I was way happier! We have 150 AMAZING photos, and the rest were so so. But 150 shots is still enough to do a great album with!
All that is to say–please try not to stress about it. It’s hard to be the center of attention, but the most important thing is that you’re in love and marrying an amazing man!
Post # 16
@cherryshake: From my experience, it takes a while to get used to your new appearance when you have a significant weight loss. Before weight loss you imagine that you will be flawless if you just get to this certain weight…then you get there, and you’re surprised to find you’re NOT suddenly Heidi Klum. I bet you looked BEAUTIFUL. I think you will come to a point when you realize it, too.