(Closed) Plus 1 for some and not for others?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

NO plus one for my guests. If I don’t know the SO, or they are not serious, sorry, we just don’t have room. And for the singletons, maybe they can meet someone at our wedding, and we will be invited to theirs down the road 🙂 It’s sad and upsetting to some, but sometimes there just isn’t a way to invite everyone.

Post # 18
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359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We are having a 70 ppl wedding, we have a very small chapel and not that much money, so we decided to give everyone in a relationship a +1, but single friends do not get a +1, almost everyone knows one another and can mingle, and even if they do not know each other- its a great way of meeting ppl- they told me this themselves- we asked most of them if they would be okey with no +1 and they were actually relieved not to bring some random person. I am sure we will have a few problems when RSVP’s come in, but I am okey with that- So, yes, totally fine not to +1 ! 🙂

Post # 19
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334 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We’re currently not doing +1s. We might consider +1 for close friends/ wedding party members who know almost no one at the wedding… all the cousins know family, so I feel they don’t need a +1. But everyone who is in a serious relationship of course gets to bring their SO!

Post # 20
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786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

As long as your +1 restrictions are equal across the board then it shouldn’t be a problem.

Post # 21
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1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It’s absolutely fine not to extend plus ones to everyone on the guest list. Even if you’re inviting people that don’t know anyone else, it’s not necessary as long as you take care to seat them with people you think they will enjoy. It also frees them up to meet new people from your other circles rather than entertaining the guest they brought with them.

Post # 22
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I did plus 1 for some and not for others.  If they are in a serious relationship or didn’t really know anyone than I gave them a plus one but for friends that had other close friends or family going I did not give them one.  I’ve experienced a lot of drama at other family weddings with the plus 1 thing and wanted to avoid that also (one cousin bringing another cousin’s ex gf as a date caused a reception to be ended early with the cops….I don’t want anything like this to happen).  I didn’t think it was bad to be choosy about this.  If it was a real problem for some one I think they would just ask if they could bring so and so.

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