(Closed) Plus 1 issue

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It’s completely you’re call but I think its appropriate.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

It’s up to you. Whatever you do, though, invite that date with his/her own invitation (unless the live together) and by name. If your friend or your cousin call to ask about their SO, tell them your decision, but let them know that if more space opens up (and they are still together) closer to the wedding, you’d love to be able to accommodate. 

Post # 5
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Worker bee

if she is a friend then your family will never know that she has just started dating him I gues 😉 and after all you are paying for the wedding so its your choice and decision whom to invite or not !

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Eh, IMO I don’t think you are doing the right thing.  I’m in the camp that anyone in a relationship gets a +1 regardless of how long they’ve been dating.  I think when you start trying to set limits then you run into this problem and then you start unintentionally judging relationships.  Like a person has to be dating X number of years to be “serious.”  Also the whole living together rule drives me nuts.  Lots of couples don’t live together before they are married and I think it’s unfair to automatically give a +1 to someone who lives with their SO but has only been dating, say, for 3 months but not to someone who has been dating for 6 months but not living together.  Just because they live together doesn’t make them any more “serious” than a couple who doesn’t.  I know it’s hard with budgets, but I’d cut back on other things before I cut out SOs.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh, you have to stick to your rules. The exceptions will get you every time. I think if you tell her you wish so much that you could extend a +1, but you just can’t, she’ll understand.

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