(Closed) Plus 1's at destination wedding??

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
682 posts
Busy bee

I would, if you aren’t paying for their travel. 


Post # 4
160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Yes, they need plus 1s.  They might not bring them, but it’s unreasonable to think they’re going to travel that far without wanting to bring their companion/gf/bf/wife, etc.

Post # 5
3189 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think so – you’re asking them to use vacation time and spent money on traveling there and a hotel. I understand most people wanting a destination wedding want to keep it small, but I don’t think it’s quite right to ask guests to do all of that to attend your wedding and expect them to come alone. I would want to spend the money and the vacation time if I wasn’t allowed to bring my SO. Even if they’re single, I think it’s nice to give them the option since they’re doing so much to be there for your wedding. A vacation alone is just not much of a vacation to most people.


Post # 7
776 posts
Busy bee

Yes. If people have to travel to your wedding they should be allowed to bring a guest IMO.

Post # 8
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I say yes.  My Fiance was invited to a Destination Wedding when we were dating but wasn’t allowed to bring me so he didn’t go.  

Post # 9
5229 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

No. I stand by the traditional etiquette that true +1s are a no-no. Every guest gets invited by name. If someone has a boyfriend or girlfriend, get the name and send a proper invitation. Those unattached are perfectly capable of attending a social function–even one far away–by themselves of networking with friends in the same situation to go together.

Post # 10
1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Yes, since it’s a Destination Wedding you have to at least give everyone the option of a +1.  It’s possible not every single person will end up having a +1 (not everyone knows somebody who is willing to spend time and $$ to go to their friend’s friend’s DW), but they should all get the option.

If you were having a local wedding, I would generally go with the “no +1 unless they’re married/engaged/living together” but since it’s a Destination Wedding, you aren’t going to have as many guests anyways and you’re making everyone travel, so the rules change a bit.

Post # 11
1875 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

For Destination Wedding, you should always extend the option of a +1 or invite the SO.  It’s a lot to ask your guests to use vacation time, travel long distances, and spend several days attending your wedding.  The least you can do is let them bring a companion.  Also, I think it’s unfair to punish your guests and not allow them to bring their SO simply because you haven’t met them.  What are they going to think when they show up and find that other people got to bring their SO’s but they didn’t.

If you have a lot of mutual friends attending, they might decline to bring a guest anyway.


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