- 2 years ago
- Wedding: June 2017
Our wedding venue capacity is 120. We invited 130. It was as small as we could cut the list. None of my cousins on my moms could be invited and I only invited 3 cousins from my dads side, who I happen to be closest to. I still feel guilty about not being able to invite at least 6 of my cousins. So the 3 cousins that were invited, their Mom, and dad all got STD’s sans suggestion of an allowed plus one. My aunt and uncle are divorced but she still accompanies him camping, boating, and to family holidays with us. They were married for over 20 years and get along great. She will always be family. Nether are moving on. They have 3 kids (the 3 cousins who I invited). My cousins are 30, 28 and 28 years old (two are twins). The 30 year old lives with my uncle and the twins live with my aunt. They do a ton of family activities with the 5 of them. It made perfect sense to invite them as a family with no plus ones. My cousins have never been in serious lasting relationships.
Well, one of the twins recently got a boyfriend who seems serious. Her and her sister were on a trip to Thailand and he surprised her by flying there to join them. He recently took her to Cabo. All they do is post lovey dovey pics of the two of them. He recently accompanied her to my grandma’s 89th birthday party. You get the point. I asked my Step Mom about them (she sees my uncle more, him and my dad are very close) and she said they will be getting engaged any time now and that I need to invite him. I’m a lil skeptical about the relationship, but it’s not my relationship to judge. When I recently sent out invites I invited him. It seems like the right thing to do. As soon as her sisters found out she gets to bring the boyfriend, one of them text me asking to bring a plus one. She literally JUST posted about her 1st date with the girl and my wedding is in 2 months. She was like “Hey, I hear Todd was invited can I please pay and bring a plus one, I swear she’s a keeper”. Not to be a bitch, and I feel like I can say this here (and would never say it to her) but none of them have been keepers. She goes through GF’s like TP. She calls them all “keepers” after every 1st date. I suspect that’s part of the problem but that’s none of my business. This is exactly why I didn’t want to give any of them a plus one. I can’t afford financially or capacity wise to let all three of them bring someone. That’s 3 more FAMILY members I could have invited. I’m so not assertive and have no idea what to say to my cousin who’s asking to bring a girl she’s been on one date with? Help!