(Closed) Plus One Dilemma….HELP!

posted 5 years ago in Guests
Post # 31
906 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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abwcmo :  Depending on how long ago they dated, and for how long, there may be no “bro code” to break. OP hasn’t even indicated if it was a short-term thing 10 years ago or a serious relationship 5 years ago.

My take is that OP is being petty. 

Post # 32
718 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I don’t think you’re crazy, I can understand why you would feel this way, but unless your fiance ended on bad terms with this girl, or if she broke his heart and he never got over it, I wouldn’t worry about it. If this guy has been with her for four years, I’m assuming this relationship happened at least five years ago, which is ancient history. I have one ex I wouldn’t want at my wedding because things ended badly, but my other two I would have no problem having them there if they were the guest of a close friend of my SO and I. I wouldn’t invite them, but if they were a plus one, I wouldn’t mind! PPs are right that you wouldn’t see her much anyway.

Post # 33
9255 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper


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alexaleeo :  

  • Is it okay to just invite him solo? — No
  • Should my fiance have a conversation with him about why he isn’t getting a plus one? — No (and she’s not a plus one, she’s his girlfriend of 4 years)
  • Am I being crazy?— Yes
  • Any advice is appracited — Get over it. Grow up, move on, let it go. However you want to phrase it. This isn’t something you should spend another minute worrying about.
Post # 34
827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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ironmaidelah :  We need a ruling from Barney Stinson regarding the Bro Code here.

Post # 35
28 posts
  • Wedding: July 2016

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alexaleeo :  i totally understand why you dont want her there but i would just give him a plus one.  Let them make that call.  If i were her i would opt out anyway and if that does happen at least the friend isnt insulted.  If you dont give him a plus one, then he may not come.  I would decide between whether you would want him there or not.  I promise you the day of your wedding you wont even think of her though.  My best friend had her ex at her wedding and it was all good.  If they are seriously dating i dont think she is going to cause any problems if she hasnt already.    Would yall want to be invited to their wedding?

Post # 36
457 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

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alexaleeo :  invite them both -be the bigger person. Not inviting her will only create an atmosphere. It could be awkward in the future also. It’s your wedding day! You’re getting married – who cares about something from the past it’s HISTORY *boom tish* 

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