- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
I love reading your posts and I am so grateful for the support of this community ladies, thank you!
I have a plus one dilemma and would like some advice. I have two single ladies coming as guests to my wedding and both have asked if they could bring a friend to accompany them.
I wanted to be gracious and considerate as both are travelling from overseas for the wedding so I said yes. Both friends then sent in a RSVP for themselves and their female friend.
I sent a friend request to both of the plus one guests and a message to say hello on Facebook. I asked for their mailing addresses so I could post them their invitation.
Here’s what hurts: both girls have seen my message but neither have bothered to reply or even acknowledge me.
I gave it a month in case both were busy and because I guessed they would need to look into their travel plans. Although my wedding is my priority, I don’t expect it to be theirs.
Still no response, so I mentioned to my friends in a polite and indirect way. They were both quick to come back and said they would check in with their friends… but still no response.
My fiance and I are really pressed for space on our guest list (and in our budget, and in the number of seats we can physically put around tables in our venue!)
We’re also under pressure to confirm final numbers to venue and for all other kinds of reasons (name tags, seating charts and so on).
This means these two plus one guests are effectively holding seats that we could be giving to other people who have since let us know that they really want to be there with us.
I think both plus one guests are probably nice people but just clueless about how expensive and challenging weddings can be! If they ‘got it’ I expect they would have replied.
My question is this: can I uninvite these two extra guests or is it too late?
I don’t want to offend my friends and I want them to be comfortable.
However I also want my fiance and I to be comfortable, and for us that looks like not having two strangers at my wedding and especially not those who don’t care enough to even acknowledge me.
I would love your opinions and your help Bees!