Post # 1
My fiance and I are paying for our small intimate wedding of about 70 people. Our reception site can only hold that amount, so we can’t add more guests. We plan on inviting our family (both small) and close friends. We were thinking of only allowing plus-ones for guests that are married or in a serious relationship. Most of the bridal party are single and want to know if they can bring a date. Is it selfish to think that this is our special day that we’ve been dreaming and saving for and want to be with people that we love, and the bridal party attendants, if single, still can’t bring dates?
Post # 3
I am only letting our bridal party bring a SO I do not need some random Joe that I have never met at the wedding… and plus if your having a head table they wouldnt even sit with there date it would be kind of akward…
Post # 4
I think it is nice to give the bridal party the option. Chances are, if they asked it’s becasue they have soemone in mind. My single party members chose to not bring someone but I feel like it’s very nice to extend the offer as they are helping you out on your day.
Post # 5
I think this is a tough decision…on the one hand it is the nice thing to do, and on the other hand, it sounds like there’s limited space in the venue.
Do members of the bridal party have specific people in mind that they want to bring? Are they going to know other people at the wedding? And what are their reasons for wanting to bring someone else? I feel like these may be good questions to get answered…we took the same route of only inviting +1 for those in serious relationships or who didn’t know anyone, and maybe about 1/2 our wedding party is bringing a guest (those who have a significant other). The ones who don’t know enough people that it didn’t seem to make sense to extend the offer, as it is expensive per person.
I think ultimately, it may be good to have a conversation with the members of the bridal party…finding out who they want to bring and their reasons, and also explaining it may be a challenge due to limited venue space.
Post # 6
I agree with judithsr – you want them to be happy and comfortable, since they agreed to be in your bridal party and are probably close to you, but you don’t want to waste your limited space on random strangers instead of close friends. If you talk to them and tell them that your space is limited, they can tell you who they had in mind and why and you can make a more informed decision.