(Closed) Plus one problem

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think that if he’s the only person you’re having this problem with, you should just invite him and his fiance.  You can justify this to others if necessary by saying it’s an exception for married/engaged guests.  I definitely wouldn’t invite him and not his fiance.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Send an invitation to him. He won’t need a plus one, since surely he’ll know people there.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Why does everybody need to be 21? Is it just an easy way to cut down the guest list? Do you have any family members 18-21? On one hand, it’ll be rude to not invite them if you invite her but I would also be angry if Fiance was going to a wedding and I wasn’t invited, as I consider myself a part of FI’s family. I guess it depends on the reason why you need everyone to be 21.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think you have to invite both of them.  She is not just his girlfriend at this point, but is his fiance.  I would be really really angry and upset if my fiance was invited to a wedding and I was not.  I also don’t think it would be good to not invite either of them; I think that would open up more problems than just inviting both of them.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

are you worried about the venue finding out she is under 21 or the guests?  if it’s the venue, then you don’t really have an option to invite her.  if it’s the guests, well, i doubt they are going to card your guest.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

then i don’t see that you have an option, right?  if the venue doesn’t allow under 21, then you can’t invite someone under 21.   just explain this to them.

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