(Closed) Plus one rule of thumb

• asscherlover
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: August 2013

Living together, engaged, married or dating more than a year.

ETA: Though we invited both halves of married and engaged couples and gave a plus one to all other guests (single or just dating, though the boy/girlfriend was invited by name where possible).

• JenGirl
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: August 2013

Definatelty anyone married, engaged, or living together. I might go down as low as dating for 6 months, depending on the couple. And I’m sure you know, but they shouldn’t be addressed as “Plus 1” on the invitation, they should have their full name on the invitation.

• lanalnoco
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: July 2013

@asscherlover:  +1

• GreenDream
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: February 2012

I put 0-6 months not living together.

I sort of wish I could have voted for multiple poll options. I think if you are able to accommodate plus ones for everyone then that is ideal. I could see people having different lengths of time for whether or not the couple is living together.

If you are living together for any length of time IMO it is long term. If you are not living together but have been together more than a few months I would call it long term as well.

• mrsSonthebeach
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I’d generally say anyone living together and anyone that you think would be if their convictions allowed or their situation did… some people can date casually for years, and otehrs will be firmly established within months.

• aussiemum1248
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: November 1999

I think about 6 months, whether or not they’re living together. So I voted 7-12 months not living together but maybe I should’ve voted 0-6, but you get the idea. A decent length of time, whether or not they live together.

• joya_aspera
• 5 years ago

Single guests should never be made to feel singled-out and alone during someone’s wedding. +1 should be extended to all whose partner/preferred companion date is not known by name.

• google
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: March 2014

@GreenDream:  yes this.

• aicila
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: October 2013

@asscherlover:  

+1

• mrsSonthebeach
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

@joya_aspera:  completely disagree. You really feel like your friends are so socially inept that they can’t go to an event alone for a few hours? I find that offensive, personally. If a date isn’t established enough as a partner to be invited by name with his/her own invitation, that person isn’t an important enough part of your guest’s life to warrant an invitation to a formal affair. This isn’t a birthday party.

• Cady
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: April 2012

6 months to a year. It dosnt matter to me if they are living together or not.

• hardtoconcentrate
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: November 1999

@Pokemon:  There’s not really a poll option for what we did, which was give a plus one to all adults (everyone above college age plus my college-aged nephew who has a serious gf).  We didn’t set any relationship requirements.  I didn’t feel comfortable inviting people to travel, stay in a hotel, and spend the evening possibly knowing nobody.  I wanted them to enjoy themselves as much as possible, and for me, that meant having the oportunity to bring a guest.  I understand that some people don’t do plus ones for everyone – we were lucky in that we were able to.

• joya_aspera
• 5 years ago

@mrsSonthebeach:  hmm, they’re socially inept, or I’m an inept hostess and didn’t think enough about their experience, such as by making sure they had the maximum opportunity to enjoy my wedding with the company they saw fit (if any)?

…I mean it’s just a wedding, I’m sure the focus on coupledom and romantic love will be extra fun for them when they’re sitting there alone, not to mention all the time I will personally have to spend with them. And hey, that +1 budget can go to extra-fancy centerpieces instead. That’s prioritizing.