Plus one situation

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

What is your protocol for other single guests? If you provide plus ones for other singles then it would be pretty rude not to give her one. I doubt one random person at your wedding is going to ruin it. You’ll be too busy to worry about it. 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

You aren’t required to give single people a +1 if you don’t want to. I’ve only given +1s to single people who will know less than 5 people at the wedding. Obviously if she ends up in a relationship that changes things, but as a single guest, the +1 option is up to you.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

It’s fine to just give plus ones to established couples (I think)

Post # 5
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Helper bee

We’ll give +1 to people in a relationship to invite them as a social unit.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Just to clarify: Plus 1s only refer to people who aren’t in a relationship. If the guest in question is in an established couple, when you invite their partner, it’s not a plus 1. Significant others do not equal plus 1s. SOs are not optional. Plus 1s are.

If your friend isn’t in a relationship and you don’t want her to bring a date, then you do not have to give her a plus 1. You should consider if she will know other people at the wedding and whether or not she will be comfortable and have fun without a date.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

We only gave a couple of people plus one’s, and this was when they wouldn’t know many other people (eg just one couple, so you can have a bit of a gooseberry situation). I really don’t think it’s necessary to give them to everyone. 

So I would only give her one if a) she will only know one or two people there or b) you have given plus ones to all other single guests and would therefore risk causing offence to make an exception for her. 

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