(Closed) Plus-ones?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Yes, I think that’s out of line of your friends. This isn’t a casual party at an apartment and if they both know the space restrictions and you not even knowing this person all that well, they shouldn’t even bring it up.

I think you have every right not to extend +1’s to them if they aren’t seeing anyone, especially if they are just going to be bringing random girlfriends to keep them company. I’m sure there will be plenty of people they can mingle with and they can meet up with L another night!

 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@pinkfrog:  You’re not being rude. I don’t mind people asking about plus-ones, sometimes they are granted for whomevers/non-dates, but it’s almost always ok to say no. You went to law school, how about a bright line rule: plus-ones are never required for guests without significant others.

Post # 5
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8394 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

You’re not being rude IMO. A +1 is intended for a significant other, not just some random friend you want to bring a long!

Post # 7
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186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have a friend, who isn’t dating anyone at the moment, who mentioned to my aunt a few months ago that she wants to bring a friend (that is also a female) as her plus one.

Ummmm. No. Sorry. You aren’t going to get a plus one. On top of the cost being over $150 per person – this friend also happens to be an ex-girlfriend of one of my cousins. Awkward much??

So, my Fiance and I decided that if the guest is not in a relationship and there will be other guests that they know in attendance, then they will be invited solo. I have even considered adding the “__ of ___ (fill in # of seats) guests will attend” on the RSVP cards so that we can avoid any confusion with our friends.

The one exception we will make is for a friend who lives across the country, who will have to travel long distance to attend and who will not know anyone else at the wedding.

I just think that until someone actually goes through the process of planning a wedding, they don’t understand how much it is per person. Unfortunately, I just can’t afford to pay for random guests that I do not know.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

the only friend that isnt dating seriously that will get a plus one if my maid of honor, all the others will only get a plus one if they are dating seriously and if they dont have friend groups in the party itself that they could stay with. i want to keep it around 100 guests, and only my family is 60 or so. if i give a plus one to everybody i wont be able to afford the wedding, so, sorry, but my answer will be no in those cases. if they are friends they will understand.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

@PhillyProper:  “So, my Fiance and I decided that if the guest is not in a relationship and there will be other guests that they know in attendance, then they will be invited solo.”


exactly that! I swear I hadnt read what you said before I posted my reply, but you explained it better than I did. lol

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