Post # 1
So I have an issue and I’m not really sure what to do here. I have done a facebook “event” as my save the date. Including some of my family members. I have made it clear on my “event” I really can’t afford to accomodate anyone extra since I am catering my wedding and I am allowed 200 people at my weddding and my guest list is already at 200. My cousin however has decided to ignore that factor and tell me she is bringing her bf and his kids. (who I have never meet before). What do I do and how do I go about telling people I can’t fit them into budget without being rude. I don’t like to hurt peoples feelings. PLEASE HELP!
Post # 3
I would gently tell her again that you cannot accomodate her boyfriend & his kids. If she persists, just tell her you are sorry to hear she will be unable to attend by herself.. and you wish she was there.. and leave it at that.
Don’t let people push you into adding additional people you can’t afford!
Post # 4
@k_steffensen: If they live together then they are a social unit and you should invite her bf. If he’s a recent bf, then you’ll need to politely tell her that you’re only inviting long term partners (or whatever your rule is).
You don’t need to invite anyone’s kinds though, but you should be consistent. i.e. you can’t invite other cousins’ kids just because you’ve met them. It is ok though to have mostly no kids and make exceptions for very close relatives like nieces and nephews.
Post # 5
When you send the invitation, make it clear again who is invited. The STD is too early for them to be RSVPing so just ignore it for now. If they keep pushing, stand your ground.
Post # 6
Plus ones only need to be given to people who are married, engaged, and live in partners.
Post # 7
You have to invite anyone together who is a social unit: that includes married couples, engaged couples, and cohabiting partners. Technically, these are not ‘plus ones’, as they are to be invited by name.
For truly single people, you don’t have to include plus ones – just addess the invitation to the single person’s name only. You can also have the reply card indicate something like “we have one seat reserved in your honor” or something similar.
Post # 8
@k_steffensen: I think you should call her up and tell her that it simply won’t be possible.