(Closed) Plus Ones?

posted 10 months ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
1889 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

To add… I had an old college friend who invited me to her wedding that was in state but several hours away and required a hotel. I don’t see her often and didn’t know any of her pre or post college friends. I was going to be pretty lonely at the wedding. 

She didn’t give me a plus one, but I was super rude and asked for one anyway. I hated the idea of spending 500+ dollars in hotel and gifts to eat alone and watch others talk and dance. I could have declined the invite but I was happy for her and wanted to be there. She gave me a plus one and we had a great time. But I would have been miserable there alone. 

So maybe take into account how many people they will know well at the wedding. If they are super close to a ton of people then you can not give them a plus one. But if they don’t know many people other than you… give em a friend.

Post # 17
3418 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

Another thing to keep in mind with regard to everyone saying you should invite the SOs or give them +1’s without question is that by doing so they might assume that they are expected to bring their newish boyfriends/girlfriends and maybe they and their SO would actually be much happier to not travel 3-4 hours and spend the night to go to some random person’s wedding they don’t know. 

Which is why I think in most cases, your best bet is just to simply ask people what they want and how they feel.

Post # 18
867 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

citizenerased14 :  I’m confused…is that really an overnight trip?  I used live in Boston and while parts of Maine and New Husband were definitely a day trip, if it were an occasion like a wedding where I presume I would be out late/drinking I would DEFINITELY be getting a hotel or airbnb afterwards.

Post # 19
1958 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

6-7 months isn’t really a gray area. My husband and I had already decided to get married at that point and were engaged by 10 months. The only reason we weren’t engaged earlier was because we were LDR and he had a big test to prepare for first. 

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