Post # 1
How did you guys decide to do this? We’re having a decently small wedding – 100 total, and since we both recently graduated from school we’re having a tough time cutting down our list because we have a large group of friends. We’re pretty much the first of our friends to get married, so I’m thinking about just inviting your SO if they’re married. I know some people who have been dating for a while might get upset but, I’d rather have another one of my good friends there than someone else’s girlfriend! What do you guys think? Was this a problem for anyone? The venue is strictly 100 people and we can’t go over that.
Post # 3
this is tough. I think if the couple is cohabitating, splitting them can get really tricky really fast. Maybe you could invite SOs as a B-list kind of thing. If someone calls you or Fiance to complain that their SO isn’t invited, tell them you have a strict guest count limit from your venue, and as people start RSVPing no, you can see if their is space for their SO. does that make sense? I hope it helps!
Edit: one of my best friends is against personally getting married, so she and her Boyfriend or Best Friend won’t be engaged or married for my wedding, but I’m definitely inviting him bc they are def on the path to lifelong partnership. These days with less and less people wanting to get married, limiting +1s to only married couples can get kind of sticky in some circles. In your circle it might work though.. so idk.
Post # 4
@Runnat: We’re inviting SOs we have personally met and in a very few cases those we haven’t (e.g. if we haven’t seen someone for 18 months because of where they live and they’re living with their SO). Like PP said, it can get a bit tricksy completely refusing any +1 who isn’t married but by all means only invite named +1s (i.e. if you know what their long-term boyfriend/girlfriend is called).