- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
I have a question which I can’t seem to find the answer to anywhere on the internet, and certainly not by myself, I hope someone can give me some advise.
We will plan a small ceremony, in the country where me and my fiancé live, I will also invite some of my truly best friends from my native country as well.
We are now planning to invite 40 something people. Very intimate and also very important, to make us both feel comfortable. We also really don’t favour an expensive wedding and would like to spend it with important people we know only.
However I read that plus one rule is usually when someone is engaged, living together or married, then you should invite their partner as well.
One of my (male) friends let’s call him X, he just moved in together with a girl, but neither me and my fiancée know her at all. I do not feel the need to invite this stranger on such an intimate occasion as this one to be really honest.
Secondly one of my better girlfriends we call her Y, she just got engaged, mainly me and fiancée (and some other friends) absolutely do not like him at all. My fiancé has actually stated after a bad experience with him a month ago when they visited us, he doesn’t want him there at all. We both do not want him there, because we really do not like him and we know he is a ‘user’ and sees it as a free dinner more than an emotional experience.
Both the guy X and the girl Y and another person, used to hang out together a lot, I would love to have them over. I now wanted to invite the three of ‘m without their partners with the excuse that we mainly do it because we want to invite only persons who we share a ‘close bond’ with, which is actually true. HELP me, is this a good idea???????
I personally think; no one ever invites people to their wedding who they dislike, so why having to put up with a plus one (who is not even a main guest) who you can’t stand. we will have to pay for this guy and worse; have to put up with him on our most beautiful day..it will definately have an affect..and cause stress for us.. am i unreasonable? please be gentle but honest!!