(Closed) Plus ones on Save the Dates?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Ok, I don’t have an answer for this, but I really want to know why you are only sending Save-The-Date Cards to some guests.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I’m also confused by "which plus ones are assigned to which guests" What do you mean?

Post # 5
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Worker bee

I would just address them without the "and guest." Unless the guest is some one who would definitely be invited, of course.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

I agree with adressing them just to the individual, for the same reason not everyone gets a save the date….

 The time that you really have to decide who is and isn’t invited is at invite drop time.

 Until then, the "bottom" of the A list is a bit flexible.  At 6 months out (StD time), we weren’t entirely sure if some B-listers would be making their way up to the A list or A-listers moving down.  So only our super core family and must-have friends got StDs.  Basically, the A+ list.

 It’s awesome if your list is in the can at 6 months out, but our list isn’t clearly divided into As and Bs, so there’s a lot of grey area for people to move around in.  It’s much better to send fewer StDs than to have B-listers wondering why they never received an invite.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t think you need to send them a "plus one". They are only "saving the date" for your wedding at this point, not thinking about what date they would bring. If they’re in a serious relationship, they’ll probably assume they’re bringing their significant other. If they’re not in a serious relationship, they may not even know who they’ll be dating at the time of your wedding. At this point, they’re just reserving the date for your wedding.

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