Post # 1
I’m not planning on doing the whole outer/inner envelope thing (to spare on expenses) and we’re sending invitations withouts each guests’ name written on them as we’re ordering them of Etsy – where do I indicate whether someone is invited with guest? It seems werid to write Mrs Smith and Guest on the envelope!
Post # 2
If it’s someone’s partner, put the name on the envelope as well. I don’t see much of an etiquette approved way round the +1 issue unless you order different invitations. It’s unorthodox but you could contact these people to let them know there is the option of a guest, or you could just out and guest on the envelope. It’s nice you are giving everyone a plus one so I doubt any offence will be caused.
Post # 3
An easy way is to have a small handwritten note included with the invitation stating “Mary, you are invited to bring a guest to our wedding. Please include their name when you rsvp.”
Post # 4
Just write “Mary Smith & Guest” on the envelope. People’s partners should be invited by name though.
Post # 5
Not many of my guests are getting +1s. My criteria for offering one is:
1) The guest won’t know anyone else at the wedding,
2) The guest will have to travel (far) alone,
3) The guest will have to book a hotel room and have no one (i.e another gurst/friend) to share with.
If they fall into any of these catagories then I will extend them a +1, but I don’t feel the need to offer a space at my wedding to someone who they themselves may not even have met yet.
I will ask guests via conversation, a text or FB message to let me know if their circumstances change between now and then, if they ASK for a plus one then I will see what we can do nearer the date.
Post # 6
Just include “and Guest” on the envelope.
Post # 7
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
ukbeebee2018 : I have received and will be sending mine out with “and guest”
My understanding of how to address the envelopes and how I am addressing mine:
married: “Mr. & Mrs. John Smith”
not married(or married with different names): “Mr. John Smith & Ms. Jane Jones”
not long term relationship or single with guest: “Mr. John Smith & Guest”
inviting whole household with same name: “The Smith Family”
inviting whole household with different names: “Mr. John Smith, Ms. Jane Jones, & Family”
Post # 8
Thanks for all your replies bees!
Post # 9
An RSVP card with _ seat(s) are reserved in your honor could help, too