Plus Ones – where to indicate?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
129 posts
Blushing bee

If it’s someone’s partner, put the name on the envelope as well. I don’t see much of an etiquette approved way round the +1 issue unless you order different invitations. It’s unorthodox but you could contact these people to let them know there is the option of a guest, or you could just out and guest on the envelope. It’s nice you are giving everyone a plus one so I doubt any offence will be caused.

Post # 3
1607 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

An easy way is to have a small handwritten note included with the invitation stating “Mary, you are invited to bring a guest to our wedding. Please include their name when you rsvp.” 

Post # 4
6839 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

Just write “Mary Smith & Guest” on the envelope. People’s partners should be invited by name though. 

Post # 5
487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Not many of my guests are getting +1s.  My criteria for offering one is:

1) The guest won’t know anyone else at the wedding,
2) The guest will have to travel (far) alone,
3) The guest will have to book a hotel room and have no one (i.e another gurst/friend) to share with.

If they fall into any of these catagories then I will extend them a +1, but I don’t feel the need to offer a space at my wedding to someone who they themselves may not even have met yet.  

I will ask guests via conversation, a text or FB message to let me know if their circumstances change between now and then, if they ASK for a plus one then I will see what we can do nearer the date.

Post # 6
959 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Just include “and Guest” on the envelope.

Post # 7
2600 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

ukbeebee2018 :  I have received and will be sending mine out with “and guest”

My understanding of how to address the envelopes and how I am addressing mine:

married: “Mr. & Mrs. John Smith”

not married(or married with different names): “Mr. John Smith & Ms. Jane Jones”

not long term relationship or single with guest: “Mr. John Smith & Guest”

inviting whole household with same name: “The Smith Family”

inviting whole household with different names: “Mr. John Smith, Ms. Jane Jones, & Family”


Post # 9
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

An RSVP card with _ seat(s) are reserved in your honor could help, too

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