(Closed) Plus one…should I be offended?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
Member
2250 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@DIBs2B:  Don’t waste your energy being offended. You said yourself you don’t know them well, and they are probably on a budget and had to make some sacrifices. It happens!

Post # 5
Member
776 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Everyone is different so it’s hard to say if you don’t know the couple well. It really comes down to etiquette. Personally I think it’s kind of rude, but someone else on a tight budget might think otherwise. 

Post # 6
Member
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

It’s customary to invite fiancees but they may have made their cut at married people.  If you are truly offended, then your Fiance shouldn’t attend.

Post # 7
Member
1134 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

i agree it def sucks! Perhaphs its a very small wedding? Maybe ask your Fh to ask if he can bring you? If not, well either tell your FH to have a good time, and you ahve a girls nite, or just send a card from you both? ( you could always play there game and only invite your FH friend to your wedding… but i wouldnt recemend it)!

 

Personally i would never invite someone without a plus 1, unless it was a child.

Post # 9
Member
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@Jen51287:  Maybe ask your Fh to ask if he can bring you?

Do not do this!  Brides are on here all the time complaining about this exact thing.  If they wanted to invite him with a plus 1 they would have.  But they didn’t for whatever reason.  So either your Fiance can send his regrets or attend the wedding without you.

Post # 10
Hostess
8579 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Maybe they didn’t realize that the your fiance was engaged? It could have been a simple mix up. Perhaps he should contact them.

Post # 11
Member
6360 posts
Bee Keeper

My Fiance and I would be and he would decline. Never happened to us though, the lack of +1 thing (even for single adults) isn’t done around here. Just writing one of the members of an established relationship as a +1 instead of inviting both by name would already convey an insult, in our community.

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