Post # 1
So… I am looking for some advice. I am a size 18/20, I am very very discouraged and scared of trying on wedding dresses, considering most places don’t have anything in my size. Iv tryed losing weight, doing this doing that and I am healthy and workout but just a plus size woman. I need advice on how to be confident and proud of my figure and how I look. Do any of you ladies have any advice for me?
Post # 3
I try to look in the mirror everyday and focus on the things I like. Yeah, daily affirmations seem silly but they really help. For dress shopping, alot of people on here have recommended calling ahead and only going to stores that have plenty of plus size samples, it’s an awful feeling going in to a store and no even being able to get that tiny thing on.
Post # 4
I’m a bit smaller than you, but I had the same kinds of feelings before I started actually trying on dresses. I was pleasantly surprsied to find that I could try on a huge number of samples that ranged from being only slightly small to gigantically huge on me.
My advice would be to go to the bigger stores–they have a wider variety of sample sizes–and start with dresses that have corsets so that they don’t have to be an exact fit for you to get into them. Also consider trying on some ballgown or full a-line dresses just because they won’t be tight on your hips and so you’ll be more likely to be able to squeeze into smaller sizes. Once you get your confidence that you can look good in a wedding dress, then branch out to other styles/samples.
You also might want to read online reviews for various stores–it can help you know what they have in larger sizes, and how they treat their customers. And I believe David’s Bridal has a lot of larger-size dresses.
Good luck! As long as you go in there with a smile and good manners the consultants will likely be very kind and gracious–they’ve dealt with brides of ALL sizes.
EDIT: One more thing: Remind yourself that your SO thinks you’re hot–dissing yourself is dissing your SO’s taste and judgment. To this day, I don’t understand how at times my SO can look at me and literally appear to be stunned by my beauty–I’d be laughed out of a beauty contest. But I accept it as something I don’t completely understand, and just recognize that I don’t have a clear image of myself. Hang in there and focus on the positive.
Hugs to you!
Post # 5
i was in the same boat as you… i went to a few smaller shops and honestly they were the worst! Their “plus size” samples that i called ahead to check to see if they have were actually a bridal size 12-14 which in real sizes is a 10. So there was no way i was going to look good as a size 18 gal in those…
David’s bridal was the most amazing experience. The sales ladies were super helpful and they had sizes that actually fit me. I know not everyone has awesome things to say about them, but i honestly would reccomend them to anyone!
In terms of actually being prepared for your appointment:
#1 wear spanx and a good strapless bra
-the sales ladies will be in there with you helping and it isnt nice when you have semi-see through fruit of the loom undies on
#2 Do your hair and makeup nicely
– there is nothing worse than looking back in the mirror and being thrown off because your hair and makeup is a mess/non exisitent
#3 Rember you Fiance loves you and thinks you are beautiful!
-i acutally went shopping with my Fiance because he is the only one who can make me feel better when something doesnt fit
#4 Dont bring too many people with you
-too many opinions is a bad thing. Bring just one person you trust and that you feel comfortable with
Post # 6
I havent seen a full body pic of you but I bet you anything that you are absoloutly beautiful! Dont get discoraged! in the bridal world the dresses are made small. even the bridemaid dresses. My friend who is small tryed on a bridesmaid dress a size bigger then her normal size and it wouldnt fit. she threw her hands up and said “thats it im not eating for a few weeks” lol Just be confedent, you will be plesently surprised 🙂 Im a size 24/26 in reg clothes and have gotton a dress that makes me cry happy tears its so amazing (lol to me anyway). and I had a great time trying on dresses! you will look great! Just remember you are beautiful! and the dresses dont have to close all the way shoot Non of the dresses closed on me but I still felt great! even tho I think most if not all of them will close on you so dont worry haha
Post # 7
We are roughly the same size, though I may be a bit bigger. I generally wear a size 20 and my wedding dress was a size 22 at David’s. I was scared to death of trying on dresses but here are some things I did/learned:
1. Bring supportive people with you! And not too many people.
2. Be positive!
3. Look fairly nice so you can feel your best and not feel “gross.”
4. Don’t get discouraged!
5. Try and go somewhere that carries sample sizes in plus-size. Why? Because then you don’t have to have that awful moment of “I don’t fit into this dress.” It’s fine if you don’t find your dress there, it just was nice to FIT into the sample.
6. Remember what you’re doing – going to pick out a dress to wear on the day you marry a man that clearly loves you just how you are.
7. Look for things that will make you more comfortable in a dress. For me, it was how it fit the things I like – my chest, waist, and where it hit on my back.
Post # 8
I would ring around a few stores to see who carries a range of sizes.
My first appointmnet was a nightmare, none of the dresses were in my size, the rude assistant left me to struggle into dresses that didnt fit on my own. And there was none of the clipping brides into dresses that don’t fit right such as is shown on many of the Wedding Dress TV Shows. I left there was quick as I could, using my child as a convenient excuse to cut the appointment short.
The next store I went to was TOTALLY different, they had so much range in my size. Ahd the staff were friendly and so nice (except the manager at the very end of the appointment who made a comment about the fact that my 1 year old had dirted his nappy as we were wrapping the appointment up, but thats different story).
Its worth it to do your homework, once you have found the stores that want to cater to your business, your dress shopping experience will be a dream.
Post # 9
Thank you so much girls! It means a lot to know that there are other women out there who go through what I do! I need to boost my confidence and feel good about myself! I’m so inspired at how confident you girls are! Thank you so much again!!!
Post # 10
I agree with everyone above! I too went to a small dress shop and had a bad experience because their sample sizes only came in size 14 which is like a street size 10 and they all looked awful on me. Some I’m sure were pretty gowns but its hard to imagine what they’d really look like since none would close.
I too had a great experience at Davids Bridal. They had a lot of sample sizes most of which were actually big on me which felt nice. The dress I selected was different than the dress I had been imagining for myself, but I think it will turn out well. The only complaint I had is that the sales woman recommended I order a larger size, so I got a 22 (my street size is 16/18 depending on the brand). I understand its easier to take in than to let out, and I’ve been losing weight and hope to lose more before the wedding. So now I have to have quite a bit of alterations which I’m hoping won’t impact the integrity of the dress. They said when I come in for my first fitting (which is still a couple months away) that I can swap it for a smaller size if I need to, which I thought was accomodating. It just always makes me a little sad when I put the dress on that its that size, but I know its not a true representation of my sizing.
Post # 11
I defnitley think my first visit will be to David’s Bridal!
I want to be able to put a dress on and see what it looks like, iv been told by small shops “we can hold it up to you and you can see how it looks” Um NO THANKS! I wanna be able to put it on and feel like a real bride, there should be more shops and stores for plus size brides! I should totally start a cute little boutique just for plus size girls! No skinny bitches allowed!! :p
Post # 12
@AshRose2124: i totally agree… i am from canada and we have very fwe shops that cater to young hip plus sized women. I envy you guys with torrid !
I swear i would make a killing if i could open a plus sized bridal or clothing shop….
Post # 13
My first stop was davids bridal I think thats the best place to start! 🙂
Post # 15
@AshRose – Do you live close to Michigan? Theres an awesome bridal shop there called Bombshell Bridal, They specialize in curvy brides and all their samples start at 16 and go up to a 30. Their dresses are beautiful and the customer service is great.
Skinny girls even come there for the experience! 🙂
Post # 16
@sweetpeony: Addition-Elle only has so much, right? I have to go to 6 stores to get 2 things sometimes…and then because my measurements aren’t standard (the Addition-Elle site actually said my waist to hip difference is not possible) things still fit wierd. I’m going to find a dress style I like and have it made custom!