(Closed) PLUS SIZE dreading the photos….

posted 3 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Find a good photographer, and you have nothing to worry about. Check their past work, research reviews, and be sure they have wedding experience 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Wedgewood Las Vegas

Both me and my hubby are plus sized. I was nervous too, but as long as you’ve found a good photographer, they will do everything in their power to make sure you have lovely photos. They will put you in the most flattering poses, etc.

I weigh about 250, and I was dreading the photos. But once they came, I fell in love with them (and I usually hate all photos of myself). They managed to capture some very nice moments where I can definitly see how happy and in love we are, and I didn’t even notice our weight.

 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I just had my engagement shoot, and I’m a plus size bride. I struggle with how I look, but I also wanted to enjoy the experience and not focus on my weight. It was a decision — I could either spend my time thinking about how I look, or I could think about how lucky I am and make the most of it.  In the end, I hated some of the photos and loved others. Which I think is normal no matter how much you weigh. (Unless you’re a model, which I’m definitely not!)

And remind yourself — your Fiance proposed to you *as you are.* Not as you could be if you weighed less. He looks at you all the time and loves you at your current weight. He wants photos of you! So try to breathe through it, smile your most genuine smile, and realize that you’re in love and lucky to have found your special someone.  Congratulations!

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Find a photographer who knows what s/he’s doing.  

When we did our e-pics a while ago, we were sitting on this abandoned train platform, and our photographer told me to scoot forward as far as I could, because women’s thighs naturally spread out more when we sit regardless of your size, and she didn’t want me to get upset seeing that on the e-pics.  I appreciated that so much, and the pictures came out great.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I was dreading our photos, scared I’d be ugly and hate how big I was, but in most I am actually pretty happy, and I think being so happy that day helped 🙂

I’m plus sized, was terrified I’d hate dress shopping because of it, was worried about any photos, and worried I’d just be embarassing the whole wedding-moon trip.

But, while I still want to lose weight and feel better overall, I felt okay on the trip.  I even wore a bikini most of the honeymoon, figuring if people didn’t like it, they could look away!  H liked my swimwear and I was wearing it for him.  Here are our pics:

Posted by Angela Bingham on Wednesday, June 15, 2016

Post # 7
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Honey bee

Natalie Elizabeth Rosenbaum :  as PPs said, make sure you choose a photographer that knows what they’re doing. Also, love yourself the way you are! Everyone is beautiful, and remember that your Fiance proposed to you and loves you for who you are. So don’t worry about your weight. Just be happy and be yourself, and I promise your pics will reflect that 🙂

FWIW, Darling Husband and I are also plus sized. I wear a street size 16, and he wears a 3x. I was very pleased with our pics. Here’s a link if you’re interested in seeing them 🙂

Good luck! They’ll turn out beautifully!

https://hcphotography.smugmug.com/event/Rebecca-and-Ivan

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Accept yourself. Get a good photographer but be realistic. You are bigger than FH, embrace it.

Post # 9
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Newbee

Natalie Elizabeth Rosenbaum :  I am short and curvy (fluctuate between 190 and 200). My husband is a tall bean pole. My biggest concern is that I was just going to look like a rampaging wildebeast in all of my photos. However, prior to the wedding, I sat my photographer down and we talked through ALL of my insecurities and things I simply wasn’t comfortable with. Don’t be embarrassed–your photographer WANTS you to love your photos. Any good photographer is going to want to make you feel comfortable and sexy and beautiful. 

I know my angles, so I told her: no looking over my shoulder, no laying down, no hand shots/rings on the finger, etc. From there, she assured me up and down that she was going to have all of my insecurities in mind during the wedding–and she did. My pictures turned out perfect and, while there were some where I was like WUT, for about 990/1000, I was super impressed with how I looked. 

If you can swing it, do an engagement shoot with your photographer. They will get to know what you like/dislike and you will feel more comfortable on the wedding day. 

Also, this is something that should be a given, but absolutely make sure you are comfortable in your dress. If you are tense and pulling it up all night or adjusting straps, it’s going to show in your body language. My dress felt like a nightgown due to how comfortable it was and it showed in my body language. 

Post # 10
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421 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I am so, so worried about this too.  🙁

Post # 11
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287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - Ballroom

I am plus sized and my husband is not only a big guy, he is exceptionally tall – 6’8″ to be precise. He is almost a foot and a half taller than me and we are both bigger people. I actually spoke to my photographer about this before hiring him. My photographer was great about this, really conscious of angles and logistics to downplay both our height differential as well as our relative sizes. My photos (both engagement and wedding) are amazing, and when I look at them, all I see are our happy, smiling faces, not our flaws.  I echo the PP about making sure you are totally comfortable in your dress as well as your shoes. Those kinds of discomfort can be easily seen in photos.

 

And, btw, a little bit of photoshopping can help, too. There was no cheating, our photographer used it sparingly in some shots. I appreciated a little extra slimming here and there.  

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

It’s hard. I love my engagement photos and don’t like almost all the wedding photos I’m in. I wish I could go back and tell them to focus more on my face. The thing I do like is I’m happy with my husband and that’s all that really matters. He loves me as I am.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Natalie Elizabeth Rosenbaum :  Get a good photographer and talk with them. Angles are everything. With a good photographer you can feel beautiful! I was worried too, and I am plus size, and I am so happy how they turned out. 14633659_1188560784521040_4355756221403336390_o14633127_1187720237938428_3596524955730724942_o

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2017

 

BMoreBecc :  Loved your pics! You were wering that dress and loved that you had some MD flair. Congratulations….

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2017

 My finace and I are plus size too! When you feel good about yourself it shows through in your photos! You will be beaming with joy and that is what you will see. So you are plus size, everyone who knows you knows it so do worry. I am certain you will be beautiful!

If you are truly scared let the professional do there work and find the right angles! Congratulations and have fun celebrating the love that you all have for one another!

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