(Closed) Plus Size Dress Drama with MOH

posted 6 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Being the Maid/Matron of Honor, it would be acceptable if her dress were similar, yet slightly different. Try seeing if Nordstrom has something that is what you are looking for. They carry a wider selection of sizes than bridal stores… which in my opinion makes bridal stores dumb given the average waistline of Americans… so it may be possible for your Maid/Matron of Honor to actually try on a dress. You can even schedule with Nordstrom for a fitting just like a bridal salon. My Maid/Matron of Honor got her dress there, and it is wonderful.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I would keep looking to see if you have any exclusively plus-size boutiques in your area, or even within a reasonable driving distance. I can 100% understand where your Maid/Matron of Honor is coming from because I would never agree to wear a dress and stand up in front of a bunch of people in it without being able to try it on and know that it looks okay first. And I know that Davids Bridal carries a large assortment of sizes in their bridesmaid section. Have you looked for options there?

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You could try and find a dress that has a simialr cut as the one you like.  It wouldn’t have to be the exact same color, but at least you could decide if an a-line, empire waist dress with a strapless sweatheart works for your Maid/Matron of Honor or not.  Or some shops will let you order a sample dress for $X.  Then if you like it, that money would go towards the cost of the dress.  But if it doesn’t work, then you’re out the money.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m on the other side of the fence on this one. I am not plus size, and I do understand she has extra concerns because of this, but I have been in weddings where I lived across the country from the bride and never got a chance to try on the dress she picked. I simply gave my measurements and happily ordered the dress she choose. I think it’s just part of being a bridesmaid to some degree. You pay money for a dress that you very well may not ever wear again. Sure when I am buying clothes for just life in general I like to see how they look on me, but when you are a bridesmaid, it’s a small sacrifice you make for your bride.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

My Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses were DB Marine and it is Navy Blue…

here is a pic of my Maid/Matron of Honor

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Trust me as someone who used to be plus size I completely understand where your friend is coming from. When you are larger most things are not made to fit your body and can therefore look awkward or unflattering on a plus size body compared to how it looks on a regular size girl.

Since she is your Maid/Matron of Honor it wouldn’t be inappropriate for her to have a different dress than the rest of your girls. I would also check out an Alfred Angelo if there is one near you.

Ultimately, it is your day and you should get what you want but you should be (and it sounds like you have been) considerate to your friend’s feelings. At the end of the day if that is the dress you want she should understand and just be willing to get measured and hope for the best.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I agree with @michelle22214:–if there is an alfred angelo signature store near you, they carry plus size samples. She might be able to try on a dress with a similar silhouette to get an idea of how the mori lee might fit. Or maybe the AA navy will be close enough to the mori lee navy, that your Maid/Matron of Honor can select an AA dress. It looks like Style 6129SN is somewhat similar, or maybe 7074.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@Filmnut88:  If you would like for her to have the dress, and she is hesitant to purchase the dress because it may not be to her taste, why don’t you offer to purchase the dress as a gift to her? That way you don’t have to waste any more time trying to track down a dress, and be done with it. She won’t be made to feel like a lesser citizen in society because no carrier has plus sizes to cater to her, and she won’t technically need to try anything on because she’s not paying for it anyway, and at that point should just be grateful. 

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