Post # 1
So we went for my first wedding dress shopping trip today up to David’s Bridal and it was interesting, to say the least! I didn’t find THE dress, but I got to try on all kinds. I know David’s is kind of sketchy to some people, but everyone at the one here was really nice, and the consultant was very friendly. She was nice about finding plus size dresses for me and getting ones that I wanted or were close to what I wanted. I was treated just like any other girl coming in for wedding dresses!
I really found that all the beaded dresses didn’t look good on me. If they had heavy beading up top it made me look huge. Same with the flat topped dresses, my boobs looked huge! I also wasn’t a fan of pickups.
What I did LOVE was a short dress I tried on. So cute and fun and flirty. All the bridesmaids adored it. My mom liked the longer dresses but she’s said (and really means it) that she’s happy if I’m happy. BUT (of course) Future Mother-In-Law hated it. Just hated it. Told me looking formal was more important than being comfortable, if you can believe it! I think she thinks a wedding dress that’s not floor length with a train isn’t ‘appropriate’ for a wedding. It’s so discouraging. 🙁
How does everyone else deal with people hating their dress choice? I didn’t get anything but I know this will come up over and over. She hated the birdcage veil, and expects me to wear white shoes (nope! Purple!!!). Anyone have any tips for dealing with this? It’s stressful enough being the plus sized bride trying to find a dress, but then on top of it I feel like nothing I want is good enough. Shouldn’t I get to wear clothes that make me happy when I get married?
I know – I have to be happy and I will wear what I want in the end, but I could just use some hive hugs and ways to cope with the never ending guilt trips from Future Mother-In-Law.
Post # 3
I’m not doing a traditional dress at all! (gray dress purple shoes, etc) and fortunately for me I’ve had nothing but support from everyone! That said, I was prepared for the skepticism and disdain and had created a little mentality for that (if it happened)
This is what I prepared to say:
Your fiance (her son) is marrying you, not her. He likes your quirky style and unique personality, that is why he is in love with you and wants to be your husband. While you appreciate her opinion you want to stay true to yourself and the person her son fell in love with and she did such a great job raising him to be a great man and therefore is an open minded man that would hate to stifle your creativity.
Then ask her for an opinion on something you are ok with her changes (linens, flowers, etc)
*hugs* I kill the guilt trips with kindness and words 🙂
Post # 4
*hugs* Thank you TP! I think I just need to like, VENT and get it out of my system. I had three bridesmaids all there, and they were like, FREAKING out over the short dress, lol. I’m going to see if I can post some pictures! It’s small (was wide open in the back) but you get the idea.
Post # 5
haha sob my white socks.
I forgot to add, I tried on the short dress because my dream is to really order this next one, and based on the styles I tried today I think it will be PERFECT:
Post # 6
Jean, I think you look lovely!
If short is what your heart desires, go short!
I wound up buying a convertible dress (short and long!).
As long as you’re happy, that’s what matters. You want to feel cute and beautiful on your big day and if it’s a short dress that does that then go for it!
PS. I think you’d look amazing in that Dolly Couture dress. I looove Dolly’s dresses.
Post # 7
I found that sweetheart cuts and scalloped tops are really flattering on all sizes. Who cares what everyone else thinks! It’s your dress and your day. I am wearing Uggs under my dress and I don’t care what anyone else thinks about that. I like your short dress it is very fun and pretty. Now a days wedding dresses are fun and meant to be dressed up! I say go with what you like it’s you day!
Post # 8
Hey girl! I know how you’re feeling. I think the dress looks super cute on you, and I really don’t even consider it “short”! It’s ankle length! The other girls are right on.. It’s YOUR day, so you need to wear what makes YOU happy! Did you try anything with a corset? I loved what that did for my shape 🙂
Post # 9
I love that dress. Do you know the style number?
The Beverlywood is THE dress that I would pick if I could have anything!!
Post # 10
Girl!! You look great in that dress! It is YOUR day…and you don’t get many of those in your lifetime so might as well get EXACTLY what you want!!! I am wearing a shorter dress too, and I love it!!! Oh and I love Dolly Couture dresses too!! They are awesome!
Post # 11
That Dolly Couture one is stunning! I really think you should go with your instinct. I’m all about compromising for family in some situations, but in this case it’s what makes you feel most beautiful that counts!
Post # 12
the dolly dress is stunning and im loving the tea lenghts – they are super stylish
Post # 13
Jean that Dolly dress is HOT I hope you end up with it! I can just see you in some sleek pin up curls and red lipstick!
Post # 14
You MUST go with the Beverlywood dress by Dolly!! It will look amazing on you with the birdcage veil and cute shoes. Your Future Mother-In-Law will just have to deal. She has had her chance to plan a wedding, wear a dress (I assume) so her turn is over and it is your turn to have the look of your dreams!
I would just cease any wedding-dress discussion, and if she brings it up, tell her you want the final decision to be a surprise!!
Post # 15
Thank you everyone for all the support. I think I really just needed to vent and get reminded that it will all be ok. 🙂 Future Mother-In-Law is a nice woman, she’s just always with the guilt about something, you know? My mom is ok with ordering the Dolly dress, and she’s paying for it so that’s what matters, right?
The dress in the photo above was style: YP9983
This was the one that was in 2nd place:
I like it a lot, but I didn’t LOVE it like the short dress or the Dolly dress, you know?
I think I need a few days to recover from all this and then make a decision 🙂
Post # 16
- Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club
You look beautiful in that dress! The one you want to order looks like it will be great for your shape. Go with your gut! The happiness and confidence you feel in the dress YOU want will overpower any negativity your Future Mother-In-Law will try to throw at you. Congrats! 🙂