Post # 1
Y’know when you see a cute hairstyle or haircut on someone, and you think “Wow that’s cute! I want MY hair cut like that!” So you go to your salon and your hairdresser cuts your hair, exactly like the picture… and you end up HATING the way it looks on you?
This is what I’m afraid is going to happen to me.
I’m a dress size 18 (hoping to be a size 14 by our actual wedding,) and I only have $1,200 to spend on a dress.
I was just going to go to Dolly Couture and bring pictures of what I like (necklines, length, fabric, etc,) and have them design a dress for me. But… what if, what I think I like, doesn’t actually LOOK good on me or my body type?
I’d feel weird going to a dress shop to try on different things knowing full well that I have absolutely no intentions on buying anything. I’d feel guilty for wasting their time. Also, I’m a size 18. I wouldn’t be able to fit into sample dresses in dress shops anyway.
What am I supposed to do? 🙁
Post # 3
Some dress stores do have bigger samples. I know for a fact that David’s Bridal often has plus size samples. Call around to other stores and see if they have anything that would fit you.
It’s pretty common that people try on dresses at multiple stores. As long as you tell them that you are just looking to get ideas and not ready to buy, I wouldn’t feel guilty about trying on dresses. Especially since in theory you could fall in love with a dress you try on and buy it there.
Post # 4
Ask bridal stores if they carry plus size, you will be surprised quite a few do. You definately should try on different styles. The style you think you like, you think would look good may not. A style you think you hate but try it on anyway and you just maybe surprised you like how it looks on you.
Post # 5
There are shops that specialize in plus size bridal, have you checked your state?
Post # 6
It is very common for brides to try on dresses without any intention of buying that day. Try on all the styles you can so you know both what styles are flattering on oyu and what you feel good wearing.
Who knows? You may find the dress you love within your budget! If not, you’ll at least know the style you should be looking for.
Post # 7
- Wedding: February 2014 - Vintage Villas
Dont worry! i’m a dress size 20 and Davids Bridal and Alfred Angelo had multiple dresses that fit me (almost all dress shops carry plus sizes)… Dont feel guilty about going there either, i went to both shops to try on dresses twice and didnt end up buying a dress from either place but i did figure out what looked best on my figure. Its also normal to try on dresses at multiple stores before you find the “one” so most stores expect some brides that are just looking. Good luck, dont stress!
Post # 8
@LadyMoriarty: I’m a plus size bride and I can tell you, Dolly Couture’s dresses are SO flattering on curvy girls. You’ll look amazing in those dresses.
Plus, there ARE designers in the LA area that carry plus size dresses. Look into Unique Vintage in Burbank (they carry a lot of plus-size friendly designers), Pebbles Bridal, Mariposa Boutique in Anaheim, and the Dresser in Fullerton. If you are ever up in the SF Bay Area, Sparkles Bridal in Sacramento ONLY carries plus size samples.
AVOID La Soie Bridal in Torrance. They told me they carried several size 18 samples, but no size 18 dresses in the salon when I showed up for my appointment–they told me they had shipped the dress I had made an appointment to try on to their Sacramento store (and they actually CHARGED some poor bride to ship the plus size dress in from their Torrance store)!
Post # 9
@CelticBeachBride: I have heard wonderful things about Dolly Couture, but I’m 6′ tall. I don’t think the tea-length style will look good on me. But I know they’re good at customizing, so I was going to have them making something long for me. And thank you for all the suggested places in/around LA! I’ll definitely check those out!
Post # 10
@LadyMoriarty: You totally don’t need to worry! They do custom lengths…so they’d measure you so that the skirt hits you at the right place. I’m 5’10” and tea length dresses look GREAT on me. My friend Lindsay is 6’3″ and she can pull them off too. Give it a try. You might be totally surprised.
Actually, most designers give you the option of ordering a dress in extra length. I am going to be wearing 4 inch heels, so I’m asking my designer to add 5-6 inches to my dress. (I originally had my heart set on a Dolly dress, but then I tried on Maggie Sottero’s lace “Emma” gown and fell head over heels for it).
Post # 11
@futuremrscortez: Thank you! I feel self conscious about it… being plus size and all. I’m hoping the sales associates are friendly and don’t make me feel bad about being curvy :
Post # 12
@LadyMoriarty: Try DB or AA just to get a feel for silhouettes that look good on you! They will always have plus size samples in lots of different styles.
THEN, go to a specialty shop that carries “better” dress designers, just to try on ANY dress, even if it’s not a dress you love, or not even the right silhouette… just to see the quality!!
If you know the silhouette you want, and you know what quality you’ll be working with, you’ll have a better idea! 🙂
I don’t know Dolly Couture, but I know Maggie Sottero is AMAZING on us bigger ladies. 🙂
Post # 13
Firstly, you should have no problems with finding at least a couple of stores – even if one is DB – where you can try on dresses in your size.
I know DB has a couple of tea-length styles, if that what you want, so Im sure you’d find a sample somewhere in LA (if that’s where you are) to try on that style.
I really don’t see the problem in trying on dresses to see what works. That’s exactly what I did, and I had even less intention of buying as I didn’t even want a typical wedding dress and was always going to get one made. I said I would buy if I found something I loved, but that was always a remote chance.
Secondly, you should have no problems with a tea-length dress at your height. That height would actually be perfect for tea-length, so long is it hits you just below the knee and not mid-calf. It’s the shorter brides who have problems looking stumpy in that length. The only problem you may have is that you really need to wear some kind of heel with it, so that may be a problem if FI is not tht much taller than you are.
Post # 14
I think you should go to at least two bridals shops and tell them you will try on dresses to get an idea. At Kleinfeld´s page you can select, which dresses they have in larger sizes. So you can see what might be there for you:
I think DB is also a good choice, because they offer cheaper dresses.
But first go to an more expensive shop, tell them what your budget will be and they bring you dresses, that will fit your shape. They have a lot of experience. And as soon as you know, what fits your shape you can go and search for your dress in cheaper categories. Good luck.
Post # 15
One more voice saying to try on dresses. It’s OK if you’re not planning to buy. Don’t take up hours and hours and hours of their time, but it’s their job to help their customer. Be polite and pleasant and they’ll be fine with it.
Also, my dress was a size 20. I had plenty of options. You have to remember that they’ll clip the dresses on you at these places, which is totally a legit way to see how the general shape will look on you. Just go with the flow and know that your dress is out there.
Post # 16
I am a very small size (6 NZ) and what I loved and thought would look nice on me looked absolutely hideous. The dresses that did suit me I didn’t like – I thought they were boring and looked like bridesmaid dresses. Everything I tried on was at least double my size and looked ridiculous. There were many times I got upset and frustrated trying on dresses!
So many people I have talked to have ended up buying something completely different to what they originally thought they would, because it just didn’t suit their shape! So please don’t be scared of this happening or think it’s because you’re a plus size – it is so normal!! You will find something that looks absolutely beautiful on you and is perfect for your shape.