Post # 1
I’m meeting with the woman who is getting my wedding dress made on Saturday, and I’m very worried about the outcome. I need a white wedding gown for my Canadian wedding, but I have to get it made in Korea where I live (and where women almost always rent their dresses and where women are generally much smaller than me – I’m 5ft 11 with large breasts and hips and 14/16 street size). I won’t be able to try on any dresses before I tell her what I want, so I’m a little lost as to what kind of dress would look good on me.
I kind of have my heart set on the first dress which another bee kindly told me about in terms of how it fit her somewhat similar shape (I can’t get the picture to load, but you can find it here: http://watters.com/product.php?coll=brides&showid=2404# . However, when I look on the plus size sections of wedding dress designers’ sites, they generally have the second style of dress. I’ve also noticed that a lot of ‘plus’ bees also have similar styles of dresses. I’m not a ball gown kind of girl, and I need to get this dress on the plane. I would also describe the Canadian wedding as a formal-modern-garden-party-meets-hints-of-rock-concert sort of event, so I’m not sure dress type 2 works with my vision. However, I also want to look GOOD in my dress!
So my questions are
a) If you bought a dress like the 2nd one, did you do so more because of preference/style or because this kind of dress is the one that usually suits 14+ sized women?
b) Does either style of dress emphasise/hide things more than the other?
c) I’m trying to lose a little weight – is there any big difference in the ease a seamstress can alter the dress between 1 and 2?
Thanks for your help!
Post # 4
HI Bamm! i cant answer to your questions but i really like both dresses… actually i REALLY LIKE the first one( maybe cause i love lace)
i feel like both dresses will fit just fine on your hips and breasts… it doesnt sound to me you are a full figured woman.. you are just tall…
just go dress shopping with no worries, and if the woman knows what she is doing than dont you worry!
Post # 5
Thank you for your optimism bimba! I am kind of full figured because I have super super long skinny legs…which means all my weight is concentrated in my hips/breasts/waist. Anyway, thanks again for your kind words.
Post # 6
I absolutely LOVE the first dress!!!
I totally think it could work on your body type. You know on What Not to Wear, how they are always saying that garments that cinch you right at your skinniest part (right below the boobs) are the most flattering? I think that sash will be a big help!
Also, when you meet with the wedding dress maker, you can show her the first dress that you love, and also talk to her about your body type concerns. I bet she’ll know better than you or I what she may be able to do for you, so that you can have the best look for your body!
I really feel like the first one is more you, and more the type of wedding you are going for, so I really hope you go for it! 🙂
Post # 7
The first dress is pretty but absouletly love the second dress. I am full figured and big chested, what I have noticed looks best is the a-line look. I notice both dresses are aline but believe the lace dress comes in a little more at the hips. If you are trying to hide the hips and de-emphasize your chest the dress number 2 would be the best choice. I could imagine you would have more cleavege with dress #1 (unless thats what you want). Also, plus to dress #2 it has rusching from the middle to the side so it will make your mid section appear smaller and with the beading under the bust it will also take your waist in and give you the hour glass figure (if thats what you prefer). Also, you migh twant to think about doing a lace up back because it helps with making one look sliming. I hope this helps.
Post # 8
Since you said that you carry your weight in the waist/breast/hip area, the wrap look/cynching of the second dress would be super slimming on you. Although if you’ve got a whole lot going on in the chest-area I’d stay away from a sweetheart neckline like #2 has. A halter or a straigh-across-strapless would probably work well. Also, remember, a ball-gown is a ball-gown because of crinolin. The less crinolin you have, the less it will look like a ball gown.
Post # 9
I like the first one so much better than the second. It also sounds like it would fit your wedding better. I don’t know a lot about dressing different sizes (can barely dress myself), but I have noticed that that wide v-neck top on the second tends to make a chest look really big, and not in a sexy way. They’re both a-line, and you can specifically ask your dressmaker to have it flare out from the waist (at your smallest part) or hug the hips if you prefer. And if you have enough time, it can always be altered after a first fitting. The biggest thing is that you wear your dress with confidence; it’s amazing how much more beautiful happy people look! Another idea is to look at the clothes in your closet and see what the stuff that makes you feel amazing has in common, or buy two shirts, one wide v-neck, one deep narrow v-neck, and see what you think (oh, or just try some on without buying!).
Post # 10
I actually think the key elements of what is flattering about these dresses is the same – both are a-line, both are v-neck, both have detailing at the empire waist. Dress 1 is a narrower a-line, which I think is really flattering because it doesn’t add bulk to your lower half and will look lovely on your tall frame. I do think the draping on dress 2 would be very flattering. Honestly, I really don’t think you can go wrong with either of these 🙂 If you love the first one, go for it! I do think the first dress will expose more cleavage as it is in the picture, but you can always ask the seamstress to have the point of the v be higher.
Post # 11
Wow! That was a lot of very good advice! Thank you so much for all of your thoughts and your very specific information about dresses! It was all really really helpful!
I went to the dress shop yesterday (usually they only rent, but because the owner is FI’s former coworker and she understands my situation, she is getting the dress made for me). She couldn’t do either dress because she didn’t have any examples in those styles and she didn’t want to have a dress made without me sort of trying it on first. But, we did a combo between two different dresses – the top is a halter Victorian-esq lace/pearl piece, and the skirt (it’s two pieces that looks like a dress together), is A-lined with a corset back with a tiny bit of wrap/rusching to make my waist look smaller (ie. the dress is basically a combo of all that you told me!). It’s very vintage looking which will go with the garden-party idea, and then I’ll try to accessorize to make it a bit more rock.
I was REALLY dreading the whole experience, but it ended up being a very positive day. So anyway, thank you all for your wonderful thoughts and helping me to understand what I needed in a dress!!!
Post # 12
Yea! I’m glad it was a good experience! Can’t wait to see the final product – keep us posted.