- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
I can sort of relate. My fi is not FIT, but he is not FAT, either. [Well, I guess some would consider him fat, but I don’t]. While I am much larger than him. It’s not being LARGER than him that bothers me, but I’ve always had REALLY large hips. So I’m super super wide, and that bothers me [don’t get me wrong, I’m still quite overweight, but my hips are my biggest thing for me].
I often think about what our pictures will look like.. will I look hideously larger than him?
When he moved here, I was a size 16, which isn’t small by any means by I felt “normal”. My family has VERY low metabolism, and I have a few health problems [PCOS, for example], so to balance my weigh I would only eat maybe at most 3 times a week, and basically was on a liquid diet the rest of the time. I KNOW, I KNOW – not healthy, but it’s what worked. Seriously, eating more than once a day makes me blow up like a balloon.
Once he moved here.. I gained SO much weight. Within the first year I was a size 18/20, and I am currently almost a 22 [22’s are a little too big, 20’s are a little too small]. Both him and his family EAT.SO.OFTEN. Like seriously, they never skip a meal, and they never gain weight. It’s just insane. It’s really hard [for me] to turn down food when they are eating it IN FRONT OF MY FACE. I know it’s my issue that I need to resolve, and I plan to take care of it, but for now, it really sucks.
Basically, you need to put those horrible thoughts out of your mind. Your fiance loves you, and he must love your gorgeous body, as well! Who cares what other people think!