(Closed) plus sized now, don't wanna be a plus sized bride

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Post # 16
2120 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I was a size 14/16 dress when I went shopping, and my wedding gown is a size 22. My fiance and I adopted a new lifestyle where we eat more fat and less carbs. He’s lost 40 lbs, I’ve lost 25. My dress was big when it came in, so I can only imagine how much they’ll have to take in now!

Post # 17
2092 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

When I got engaged I had it in my mind that I had a year and a half to lose 40-50 pounds. Well between finishing nursing school, boards, switching jobs (twice), buying a house plus moving, and rotating shifts at the hospital I’ve been unable to get myself in a good routine until recently. Since this January I’ve lost 25 pounds. I feel better about myself, but I’m no where near my goal. But my dress fits and I feel beautiful in it. Make sure you find a flattering style of dress that you’re comfortable in regardless of your size that makes you feel special!


Personally, I’ve found the best thing to help me lose weight was cutting out added sugar in my coffee and tea, and greatly reducing my intake of breads and cheese. I also used the myplate app on my phone from the livestrong website which really helped me monitor my weight and intake of carbs, protien, and fats. Best of luck Bee!

Post # 18
1309 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

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keya51: TBH I think this sort of discussion belongs on the fitness/ wellness/ or even dress boards. Losing weight as part of preparing for the wedding isn’t just a plus size bride preoccupation, nor should it be. The number of “So…will you be losing weight [because you are fat]?” comments I have received since getting engaged has genuinely shocked me (I thought people had better manners). Try to lose weight (and/or increase your fitness) as you prefer, but please don’t do it just because you don’t want to be “plus size”, what is considered plus size is arbitrary and depends on where you live, don’t stigmatise a number on a label. If you just want to look your best (and in your opinion that involves losing weight) I wish you every success!

Post # 19
414 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Hanover Grande Ballroom

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OldestTree:  thank you! It took a while to feel confident in it! But once I stopped focussing on what I didn’t like about my body, I realized how much the dress flattered me and now I’m so excited to be able to wear it!!

Post # 20
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I second the My Fitness Pal app!  I have been using it for two weeks and I love how it makes me think twice before I snack or over-eat.  I am down nearly 4 pounds and I feel motivated to stick with it.

I am a size 16, and I feel like I have been for a long time.  I gained about ten pounds since my proposal last September, and I really just don’t want this over eating and weight gain to become the norm.  I still fit in my size 16s, but it is pretty snug!  So like other Bees have said, I want to focus more on health and not size/fit into the dress.  

My dress needs to be taken in, and it is my goal not to grow into it, haha.

Post # 21
2 posts
  • Wedding: September 2016

I am trying to do the same thing…. Actually I have lost about 15 pounds since I started. Our Weddings are a week apart we should keep in touch and motivate eachother.

Post # 22
157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

If you’ve been searching for a catalyst to motivate you to lose weight, and getting married is it, then power to you. 

if you feel like you -need- to lose weight to look good on your wedding day… that’s something different. If you haven’t gone dress shopping/browsing yet at your current size, DO IT. Wedding dresses have the merit of being clothing designed for women, not teenagers. All women have imperfections, and if your only concerns are weight or fat related… you can probably find a dress out there that makes you look drop dead gorgeous. Most dresses I’ve been trying have been a 14, 16, 16w, 18, so I know that I’m kinda at the smaller end as far as plus sized goes, but I went to a wedding last fall where the bride had a 24 taken in to fit her (so probably like a 22 or 20) and she looked AMAZING.

I felt the exact same way up until I went dress shopping this March at 5’2 / 200 pounds “just to see what I looked like now to see how much weight I’d need to lose to feel happy with myself”… After that trip I said “well damn, I don’t -have- to lose a pound, but if I just happen to lose weight I’ll only look better” =)

If I had to give advice on what to try on first, ABSOLUTELY go for a tie up back (they can really tuck your midsection in) and a dress with boning (you won’t have to wear a bra!!!) and try out a few skirts that are A-Line or even Ballgown because they can really cover up any lower stomach issues or make your waist look smaller  by having a fuller skirt for comparison. I’ve had a lot of luck with dropped waists and ruching too, personally. 

Here’s an example of the difference a properly fitting dress can make: two images side by side from my least flattering angle as far as waist size goes. The dress on the left was too large so was sitting on me the way regular clothing would. It was still holding itself up without straps and all, but you can see the big red clamps were the only things keeping it on me. The dress on the right shows what a tie up back can do. To illustrate my point even better… I actually weighed more in the picture on the right than I did on the left.
Still searching for “the” dress because I’m picky as hell though.


Post # 23
151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

My wedding is October of next year. I haven’t exactly been *trying* to lose weight, but I’ve lost 40 lbs since going on my medication in November. Hoping to lose another 50 lbs but I’m not holding my breath and I’m quite happy in my skin 🙂 I’m currently a bridal 24. It hasn’t had any negative effects on my bridal experience or my confidence, but I definitely know the feeling of wanting to look your best on your wedding day. 

Post # 24
256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I highly recommend the 21 Day Fix from Beachbody. It’s a really simple diet and exercise combo program. Basically, they send you two workout DVDs (a different workout every day of the week!) and a bunch of color coded containers with a list of what you can put in each one – then you do a simple math equation to figure out how many of each container you can have a day. It completely takes the “counting calories” (which I find really annoying and frustrating) part out of it, plus the workouts are short (30 mins) and fun! There’s also a modifier in every video in case you need to take things down a notch at first. If you don’t feel quite ready for something like that yet – I second the PP who suggested walking every day. My mom has stayed a size 4 her whole life just from walking! But I also think it’s important to remember that EVERY bride, no matter her size, looks radiant on her day 🙂

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