Post # 1
Are any of you the wife (or fiance/SO) of a police officer? Do you find it difficult with their schedule? How do you cope?
I know I have a really hard time with my husband’s schedule! He is on a rotating schedule and working midnights. Can any of you relate? Please tell me I’m not the only one.
Post # 3
Well, my DH is not a p[olice officer but he does work late/overnights sometimes. He works in a hospital so they have employees there around the clock.
It really stinks when he is not home at night (he also goes away for military training sometimes), and the only thing that really helps is staying up late watching bad tv (that he hates), and eating a bunch of junk food…but hey, that’s just me :op
Post # 4
I hate that on a Saturday I’m home without him and alone :o(
It stinks too because friends usually want to go out as couples but I can’t and I’d just be a third wheel.
Post # 5
LOL bad TV gets me though the week days too! He HATES real housewives… so it’s my only time to watch it
Post # 6
i thikn it is really important to try to make the time you ahve together count. Set up a date night once a week to reconnect. maybe try doing something for him while he is at work so he can come home to..even if it is just a litle note 🙂
I am a really bad cook (more inexperienced than bad, really but anywhoo…), so I kinda want to try to cook stuff when he is at work those late nights. maybe you could find a hobby?
Post # 7
Haha I love the “Love and Hip Hop” show…I don’t know why…well, I do know why. usually I just make comments sat the people on the t.v. My DH just doesn’t get it…but he goes and watches WWE wrestling and I’m like…huh???
Post # 8
My DH is a cop and he works swing shifts. A few weeks on days and then so many weeks on nights. I hated it at first but now I kind of like my alone nights. I have a dog who keeps me company and on nights he works, I can eat whatever I want for dinner, watch whatever TV I want and get things done around the house. It is frustrating on holidays when he has to work but there’s not really anything I can do about that…
Post # 9
Schedule? What schedule? You mean there is such a thing AS a schedule? LOL Yeah it sucks but you do get used to it…kinda.
Find some single gal pals to have over and get silly. It can be fun to have pajama parties and dance around the house singing into your hairbrush. Acting like you are fifteen can be a BLAST when you are in your thirties! The sillier it gets the better seriously.
You got two choices: pout and be miserable or set out to have the most fun ever! Life is always what you make of it. I have tried the first and honestly the second is much more entertaining, try it!
Post # 10
My SO is applying to the provincial police force in the new year… and I’m actually really afraid. I’m almost 100% sure he’ll get the job as he has a lot of family friends that are cops as references and he has been meeting with recruiting officers for years. If/when he gets the job, we will have to move for his duration posting (approx 3-5 years) to a really small northern town in my province. I’ll be a teacher (graduating next year) so this is actually a good thing for my career, but I am SO affraid of the little time we will see eachother because of our schedules (or lack there of on his part :/), especially since we’ll be in a small town where neither of us know anyone. I’ll be watching this thread, because I’m looking for advice as well. I’m hoping we can find a good group of police officer’s wives/SOs/FIs and help eachother out, because I am assuming it won’t always be easy!
Post # 11
I usually joke with people that I don’t know too well (and ask me how I find being with a police officer) that the fact that we don’t spend every single night together means it will take longer for us to get sick of each other!
But beyond that, it really really sucks not having every weekend together like a lot of my other couple friends have (right now, the rotating schedule means he is off 2 of every 5 weekends). As already said, we do try to make the most of those 2 weekends and work around the shift as well. For instance, he is working nights right now so he wakes up at 3 in the afternoon and leaves around 10. We had an enjoyable afternoon together, made dinner together and went to Rona to check out some stuff for around the house. I’m not an exceptionally independant person- I love to be around him and just be together. Falling asleep alone is still hard for me (especially because this is when I tend to let my imagination run wild and I over-think things…)
On the flip side- I don’t feel guilty going out with my girlfriends two nights in a row if he is working evenings and I know he wouldn’t be home anyways. He has days off in the middle of the week so he can come down to my work and have lunch with me or do random errands. “Scheduling” a specific date night doesn’t work for us because he’s never always off one specific day
The toughest thing that we’re still trying to work through is the whole holiday scheduling. Between my family and his and every other friend commitment in between, it becomes stressful trying to meet everyone’s expectations (they have all the holiday time off so sometimes I feel like they don’t understand). My mom also works shifts, which is great because my side understands the lifestyle, but also makes it twice as difficult to be off at the same time!!
Ahh rambling lots over here! If you have any specific questions about living together or work ‘drama’ let me know 🙂