Wow, this post has taken a turn … for the worse.
I have to chuckle…
Etiquette has been around for 100s of years… and for at least as long, folks have been celebrating Weddings with happy couples, and YES folks bringing along Gifts.
Long before FaceBook, The Internet, Gift Registries… or even the Telephone.
The word got out there… and the majority of Guests did not come empty-handed.
Mind-Boggling… however did that happen in the 1600s, 1700s, and the 1800s in the USA… I cannot for the life of me understand !!
Now we fast forward to the 21st Century… and suddenly there is a GREAT NEED to inform Wedding Guests of not only WHERE to find possible Gifts (a Registry… or 2, 3, 4, 5)
BUT to go as far as to say…
“Nah I’m not that thrilled about a Registry List… because gosh, I don’t wish to be GRACIOUS for just any old thing bought at a Housewares / Department Store / Cooking Boutique etc… What I REALLY REALLY WANT IS CASH MONEY !! And oh ya be sure and put it in a nice Envelope, write your name upon it, and drop it into the designated spot at the Wedding where we can be sure and get our greedy little hands on it ASAP”
If that isn’t NOT CARING about your Guest’s Feelings… and making THE GIFT MONEY GIFT and YOUR NEEDS a priority… then I’m not sure what else would say it even more clearly
“Small LARGE Unmarked Bills” perhaps ???
Truth is any Bride that is spending inordinate amount of energy on the whole Guests giving Gifts aspect (ie vs not mentioning it at all)
Is probably making the Gift Giving too much of a PRIORITY for her Wedding… particularly so if you are WORRIED that your Guests WON’T GET IT RIGHT (that is a telling sign… RIGHT by who’s standards ? Oh ya yours of course… again showing a LACK OF CONSIDERATION for the Guest and their right to choose how they wish to recognize / celebrate your Marriage)
A Wedding is NOT ABOUT THE GIFTS… so truly they need NO MENTION AT ALL EVER
If someone does choose to bring you something it is a GIFT. Period.
GIFT = Something that is bestowed volunarily and without compensation.
And as any 5 year will tell you the BEST GIFTS are those that are unexpected… and given with LOVE