(Closed) Polite way to ask for $ as gifts?

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 107
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

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@bellaingenue:  Was the Ang Pao empty or did it have cash?

Post # 108
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@Cynderbug:  The ang pao’s included in the wedding invites were empty. They were meant to be filled and given back to the couple at the wedding.

Post # 109
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

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@bellaingenue:  Wow, this is the first time I’ve heard of sending empty red envelopes. Maybe it might be a Western Chinese/Asian thing to be de-sensitized to the original ang pao etiquette. To each their own, I guess. If I were the guest receiving the invite, I’d be offended though; it’s already an implied cultural thing, based on hundreds/thousands years of tradition — there’s no need to be blunt about it. The reason why red packets are given to newly-weds, is to give them good luck and hope they have lots of kids sooner.

These links may help:
http://allmalaysia.info/2011/01/29/angpow-etiquette/

http://www.passivelifeincome.com/others/wedding-ang-pao-market-rate-and-etiquette

 

Post # 110
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We included a little registry card with our invites that read

Your presence at our wedding is the greatest gift of all. However, should you wish to honour us with a gift, a contribution to our honeymoon would help to create memories that will last a lifetime. A wishing well will be available on the day.

 

Post # 112
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@Cynderbug:  Thank you for this info! OP, sorry if we threadjacked a little bit. :S

Post # 113
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@FutureMrsBPJ:  there is never a polite way to ask for money but you can always do a large registry for an item people can put cash toward like parts of the honeymoon, they can pay for extras like day trips, water activities, spa stuff or do a home registry for a down payment, home improvement materaisl etc. If you dont care about the etiquette of it then just ask for the cash if thats what you want but I have seen it back fire and had friends not even recieve cards or any other gifts really

 

Post # 114
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Morton Arboretum

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@DaisyBelle:   I agree the true sign on money is that you do not talk about having it.

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