(Closed) Polite way to say, "cash only, please!" for wedding gifts

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

There’s not a polite way.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

There is no polite way to ask for money.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Sorry, no way. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I don’t believe there is a polite way to openly ask people for money.  I think your best bet is to create a very small registry – people will be able to take the hint.  Also tell your mom and bridal party that if anyone asks them what to get you, they can mention that you’re saving up for something in particular and could really use a gift toward that fund.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I agree with PPs. Please do not ask people for money in any way. No poems or anything else unless you are overseas and it is widely done though.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

Just register for a few things you actually want. People should get the hint that you’d prefer money if they want to give a gift. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

*sigh* there is no “polite” way. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

The only possible way to handle this politely is to say when asked that you’re “saving up for X” or that you “Live in a small apartment and don’t really need anything” (which is risky that people might interpret that as give you nothing rather than cash). 

I’m confused what you mean by invited to reception but not the wedding?  Do you mean you’re having a small ceremony the same day, or there’s a ceremony/reception elsewhere another day?

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Agree, no polite way.

 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m no Emily Post, but I don’t think there is a way.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

What is your reasoning for not inviting some of the guests to the ceremony?

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

There isn’t a polite way to do this at all. You really shouldn’t be anticipating gifts from anyone, let alone people you don’t deem close enough to invite and are hiding your ceremony information from. That’s pretty bad form anyway you look at it. 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

There is no polite way. At best when people ask you where you’re registered you can simply say “no where.”

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