Post # 1
What’s a polite way to request that people give cash gifts, if they feel inclined to give something?
My parents are holding a reception for me and my fiance. Some of the people who are invited to the reception aren’t invited to the wedding. Our honeyfund (registry for our honeymoon) that we’re using for our wedding has details of our wedding on the page, so I don’t want the reception folks to see that and feel bad. So, cash gifts work best for us, especially since we live in a small 1 bedroom right now.
One of our guests attending the reception has asked where we are registered. She isn’t invited to the wedding, so I don’t really want to bring up the honeyfund, which has wedding details on it.
How to respond to her, and say politely that she can give a cash gift?
Post # 3
There’s not a polite way.
Post # 4
There is no polite way to ask for money.
Post # 6
I don’t believe there is a polite way to openly ask people for money. I think your best bet is to create a very small registry – people will be able to take the hint. Also tell your mom and bridal party that if anyone asks them what to get you, they can mention that you’re saving up for something in particular and could really use a gift toward that fund.
Post # 7
I agree with PPs. Please do not ask people for money in any way. No poems or anything else unless you are overseas and it is widely done though.
Post # 8
Just register for a few things you actually want. People should get the hint that you’d prefer money if they want to give a gift.
Post # 9
*sigh* there is no “polite” way.
Post # 10
The only possible way to handle this politely is to say when asked that you’re “saving up for X” or that you “Live in a small apartment and don’t really need anything” (which is risky that people might interpret that as give you nothing rather than cash).
I’m confused what you mean by invited to reception but not the wedding? Do you mean you’re having a small ceremony the same day, or there’s a ceremony/reception elsewhere another day?
Post # 12
I’m no Emily Post, but I don’t think there is a way.
Post # 13
What is your reasoning for not inviting some of the guests to the ceremony?
Post # 14
There isn’t a polite way to do this at all. You really shouldn’t be anticipating gifts from anyone, let alone people you don’t deem close enough to invite and are hiding your ceremony information from. That’s pretty bad form anyway you look at it.
Post # 15
Thanks, ladies. I’ll have my mom/dad spread the word if people ask what they can give. We are having the wedding on one day and the reception on another day. Our wedding venue can only accomodate 125 guests, hence, the reception a week later.
Post # 16
There is no polite way. At best when people ask you where you’re registered you can simply say “no where.”