(Closed) Politely asking for wording change?

posted 9 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
7286 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I understand your dilemma!. I think a big issue is going to be respecting the Church’s feel. A conservative pastor may take issue to bending for you.

For the man and women part could you change to two people who love each other? Or just cut certain parts out completely?

I hear you on all the Christ stuff! We used God and maybe one “Lord” . 

I would revise your ceremony to your comforts and beliefs and then run it by the Pastor. The best thing would to be upfront and honest! Best of luck!

Post # 4
1309 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think your biggest problem is going to be with replacing “Jesus” with “God.” Because most Christians (whether they are liberal or conservative) believe that Jesus is one of the persons in the Godhead. Episcopalians, Methodists, Catholics, Congregationalists, Presbys, Lutherans, Baptists, most evangelicals believe this.

I think only Jehovahs Witnesses and Mormons officially don’t.

So replacing Jesus with God wouldn’t make sense to most Christians. They’re the same thing to them! Or at least they think that Jesus is the primary model for Christian life (that’s where the word Christian comes from obviously, it means Christ-follower). So understandably they mention Jesus a lot.

It sounds like your personal faith background is not so really Christian so much as it is focused on worshiping a Creator-deity (instead of an incarnate-deity like Jesus is considered to be). Here’s an idea, could you perhaps suggest to the pastor that the language be switched to reference “God the Father” “God the Creator” “Heavenly Father” or “Heavenly King”? Would that be a bit more comfortable?

Post # 6
11 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

I have the same problem.  I was raised in a very liberal United Church (in Canada) and I’ve been attending my FI’s family’s church which is way more conservative and WOW do they ever over-use the word Jesus!  I hear the word Jesus in one service more than I’d hear it in a year when I grew up.  But I’m learning that it’s mostly just a wording thing.  God-Jesus-Holy Spirit, are all the trinity and some denominations just pick one or two to use more than the other in their vocabulary.  Like this “personal relationship with Jesus Christ” thing… Woah!? what?!  I grew up with “I talk to God”… apparently it’s all the same thing.

I’m hoping that if the pastor isn’t willing to changing some of the wording that maybe this helps.  Sometimes, it’s just a different dialect 🙂  And thanks for reminding me that I should talk with my pastor about this for our ceremony too!

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