(Closed) Politeness & Helping Others

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I do, and I live in NYC.  I was born and raised in Michigan, though.  Living in the city can make you a bit jaded though, as the last two times I returned cash I saw people drop, they were either completely ungrateful or just plain rude!  Grumble grumble. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I grew up in Ohio, and I’ve always done this, and have always been surrounded by people who do the same (for the most part). In Montana, where I live now, and, mostly, people do this, too. I find not quite to the same extent, but they’re overall pretty polite. I’m told that people in the MidWest are “known” for being extremely polite, and I find this to be true in my experience. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Absolutely. My mother would be crushed if she saw me brushing past someone without holding the door. It’s just manners. I also pick up dropped items, give up seats to old people, and don’t talk on my cell phone while going through the checkout line.

I traveled with my daughter when she was 4 months old and I will never forget how it felt struggling to hold her in the snuggly, wrangle the stroller, diaper bag, and a suitcase. At one point I dropped my purse and everything fell out and not ONE person in the airport stopped to help me. I will never raise my children to be so apathetic.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I hold doors, pick up things, etc–and I was raised in a city. I think it probably has as much to do with what your parents taught you as it does where you grew up.

That being said–my Fiance grew up in a VERY small town and I think on the whole, people are nicer/friendlier there than they are where we live. That might be because everyone knows everyone so you can’t really get away with being rude lol.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I live in Chicago and I try to be friendly to everyone. I’m constantly giving directions on how to get to tourist attractions or how to navigate on the L. I personally love being mindful!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m in Atlanta. I always open doors, let people in front of me and try to have an overall good person in most aspects of my life.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I do, I live in CT.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I hold doors or help if someone dropped stuff.  Grew up in the suburbs, live in DC now.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I do those things and for me I think it has a lot to do with the family and religious based community I grew up in. 

I live in South Florida. I think the rate of occurrence for those things down here is about 50/50. 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m going to stand up for NYC. I see people hold doors all the time. I see people let ladies out of the elevator first, I see people pick up things for people. I see people offer their seats to the elderly/pregnant women. They might not smile at you but if someone cuts a line they’re going to get yelled at for being an *sshole.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

There definitely are cultural differences at play with what people think of as “polite” or not from place to place. For instance, here, I find that people just do not move out of your way….like, ever. I think people are just not in as big of a rush. They’ll literally look at you waiting for them to clear up a bit of space in the shopping aisle, and continue standing in the middle of the aisle with a cart blocking your way. It’s really odd to me, but my husband doesn’t think anything of it. He thinks I’m rude for expecting them to move aside a bit. His family also thinks that drivers in the MW are very rude, because they’re in more of a rush to get places, but I think that the people taking their time here are rude. I personally found Parisian drivers to be ridiculously rude & inconsiderate, but they just saw it as a way of life and figured I just didn’t know how to drive by their “rules”.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I do.  I live in the city, always have.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

i live in San Jose,CA pretty big city id say? and im usually with my babyso i cant hold doors open for others but if im alone yes.Theres a bit of everything, some see me with her and hold the door or let us pass and some are just rude and dont do shit lol

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