Ring Buying Question – help?!

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2002

clipclop1023 :  If you care at all about having a nice diamond you’ll be much better off buying the diamond off your choice and having it set. Whiteflash, Brian Gavin Diamonds and James Allen would be a great place to look for a stone and you will get a lot more bang for your buck avoiding B&M stores.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Mine is antique and therefore set. Just buy the stone separately because that’s clearly what you would prefer. Have fun – it’s all very exciting!

Post # 5
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Helper bee

We went to a local jeweler who showed us 7-8 different stones with the desired specs and let us choose between. The setting was purchased from them as well although they will work with outside stones. 

That said, have heard great things about online diamond sellers such as Brian Gavin, Whiteflash, and James Allen and would have felt totally comfortable ordering a stone from them as well. James Allen has some gorgeous settings. 

From what I understand the jeweler where you purchase the setting should be able to set the stone for you, too. If you are worried about them sending the stone off to be set, insurance protection for your stone while it’s in their shop, etc. you can always ask what their policies are and find the jeweler you feel comfortable working with. 

Good luck and congrats! 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

My husband bought my diamond separately and had it brought in from outside of where we live.  We then had it set into a custom designed band through our jeweler.  Everything worked out great!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

clipclop1023 :  I would buy the center diamond seperate from the setting.  You will get a much better price and quality!

Post # 8
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207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2002

clipclop1023 :  You can check James Allen to see if they have the setting you want. Otherwise have it shipped to you so you can see it and decide if you love it, then send it to the jeweler who will be setting it.

I will caution you that if you think you might upgrade your stone down the road you will have to spend twice the amount of your original diamond at James Allen. Whiteflash and Brian Gavin have better upgrade policies.  

Post # 9
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290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would get the stone separately. After a couple disastrous diamonds from chain jewelery stores, I learned my lesson. A quality stone that I loved, of any type, became my first priority. If it happened to come already set, great. Whiteflash has better settings than JA, IMO. But JA has a better diamond purchasing experience. Good Old Gold is another one to check out. Beautiful loose stones. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

It is so much fun to do custom settings, and pick exactly what you want. It isn’t always much more expensive either, and you get exatly what you want one of a kind. I highly recommend the loose stone and custom setting route. I have done several custom settings and it is always rewarding. Often the stone quality is much better for the price too.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

clipclop1023 : I bought my moissy OEC and two side diamonds each from a different seller. I then worked with Elle at TheGemstoneProject to design the ring. The pears that took my 3-stone to 5 were from her collection.  DK is her bench. But, I’m pretty experienced with gems and jewellery — and custom was still hard.

A Jared quality setting is just as bad as the diamonds. They use terrible small diamonds and their settings are getting thinner and lighter. They not worth the investment.  They are just poorly made and then when you try to get them to repair them, you are on a never-ending cycle of crappy customer service.

Look at JamesAllen, Whiteflash, and BlueNile (settings not awesome if you want a head that is unusual). There are lots of lovely custom jewellers that will make what you want if it does not exist. Joseph Schubach (source diamond elsewhere), TheGemStoneProject, David Klass, and Mytal Hannah.

I’d get help from the PS RockyTalky folks on the diamond and setting. They’ll find you a stunner and guide to to some settings that will be really lovely.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2002

glitterysala :  I just checked out The Gemstone Project and I’m amazed at Elle’s work! Nice to see your ring on there as well.

Post # 13
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Busy bee

We bought the sapphire from a gemcutter, and then had the setting made by a local jeweler with stunning work and a national name despite her small storefront. It was SO much less expensive than buying a premade ring of lesser quality.

Post # 14
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1721 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

manderson62 :  Thanks. She is a total doll. She has more patience than any human. I love that she works from sketches in the beginning. So, we went through about 5 options for the gallery before we settled on this one. I would recommend her for anyone. Her designs are just unique.

Post # 15
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Newbee

Don’t know about all Jared stores, but the one we used actually does completely custom orders from finding the loose stone or stones you want, to design and CAD approval, through multiple progress checks, to final ring. Because the Jared we went to is an hour away, most of the cleanings and prong checks have been done through my local jeweler who will always be honest with me if he sees a problem. We got the ring from Jared in Delaware to save the several hundred dollars’ sales tax we would have paid at home, and I’m as thrilled with my ring today as I was the day I got it.

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