Post # 1
Sooooo since I am officially on this TTC journey, I keep hearing from many people to just make sure I’m relaxed about the whole process “and it will just happen.” The more I’m in it the more I realize how complicated it can be with temping and charting so I can see the added stress it may cause. And if I tell anyone this is what I am doing or thinking of doing they insta-reply “oohhh you need to just relax.” I am wondering if any of you got pregnant when actually obsessing about temping, opks, charting, timing sex to the dot. Or were you relaxed, not charting, maybe even NTNP? Would love to hear your experiences! Thanks!
Post # 2
I don’t think people mean that stressing out is going to prevent you from getting pregnant. It just means you only have so much control over the process, so try not to drive yourself crazy and accept whatever happens. I know its easier said than done though!
Post # 3
I temped and did OPK’s and all of that. But it didn’t stress me out. It actually lessened my stress because I could tell what my body was doing and when. And then I had LOTS of information to give my doctor when we talked
Post # 4
Also general stress can delay ovulation in some people – so if you are having sex when you think you ovulate, but then ovulate later because of stress, you miss the window to get pregnant.
Post # 5
The “just relax and it will happen” bullshit is bullshit. Stress can delay ovulation, but statistically, you are way likelier to get pregnant faster if you’re charting your cycle and timing intercourse than if you’re just winging it.
Post # 6
Wasn’t stressed bc of TTC since we had just started NTNP, but I was super stressed at work. It was a busy time and I had an offer to leave my firm that I struggled with for months. When my period was late I assumed it was a combo of just having come off BCP and stress, so I didn’t know I was pregnant until I was already 7 weeks along and decided to test.
Post # 7
I was stressed about everything. Still got pregnant and not because I “relaxed and let it happen” but because I actively worked at it with temping and charting.
Post # 8
I’m afraid I’m one of those who get pregnant when I stopped stressing. We’d been trying for 2.5 years and I’d stopped charting and we’re about to start IVF. Unfortunately you cannot manufactor that relaxation … you have to do the journey.
Fwiw we’re trying for #2. I’m charting again (was using natural family planning before) 2 cycles of times sex and no baby. Despite everyone telling us it will be easy this time round.
Post # 9
I think the benefits of knowing when you ovulate and being able to time sex accurately likely outweigh any additional stress it adds to your life, in terms of the probability of conception.
ETA: Also, do those things need to go hand in hand with stress? Maybe for a lot of people, I guess. I’m temping and using OPKs and I don’t find it stressful. Granted I’m very early in the TTC journey, only my 3rd cycle charting and 1st cycle actually TTC. I’m sure I will start to stress once we don’t get pregnant for a while, but that will be due to just the unknown nature of TTC, not the charting part of it. I find that to be reassuring because at least I know that I AM ovulating and that we ARE timing sex correctly.
Post # 10
tell those people to shove off. IF you have a fertility issue “relaxing” won’t help one bit. I got pregnant during one of the most stressful events of my life – IVF.
Post # 11
I definitely think it’s BS. It doesn’t matter if you’re stressed or not.
I got pregnant during an extremely stressful time in my life (my son was not planned, so I wasn’t stressed about TTC but a lot of other factors).
Post # 12
I guess I felt more “in control” of TTC when using OPKs and temping… The month I conceived was a very stressful time at work… Which I actually think could have delayed my ovulation because I didn’t ovulate until CD23! Like others have said, avoiding the stress of it all is easier said than done.
Post # 13
I was extremely stressed out when I got pregnant the second time – Extremely.
Post # 14
The cycle I got pregnant was stressful workwise. I was traveling a lot, on a big assignment, working really long hours. I had so much life stuff going on that DH and I were kinda shitty TTC’ers. I gave up temping (because i was working all nighters), was kinda lax with my OPK’s, was drinking a ton of caffine. We did BD near ovulation intentionally. I was BY FAR the most stressed/generally most unhealthy that cycle. So, I don’t think you have to live a perfect, stress-free life to get a BFP.
Post # 15
Frankly I can’t remember the last time I was NOT stressed at work. Got pregnant anyway, it was actually nice in a way because I knew that in a few months I’d have a little time away from work.
However, when I had to deal with massive stress at home and at work, to the point where I was losing weight… that was not a good time to get pregnant. It didn’t go well at all. I guess there’s a limit to how much stress one can handle, especially if there’s no break from it anywhere.