Poll: are you planning on having a first look?

posted 1 year ago in Traditions
  • poll: Are you doing a first look?
    Yes : (68 votes)
    57 %
    No : (52 votes)
    43 %
  • Post # 2
    742 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    My fiancé and I are having a first look, partially at the suggestion of our photographer. He gave us the option and explained the pros and cons of both, and we mutually agreed that a first look would be best for us.

    Probably the biggest reason we are choosing to do it that way is because it takes some of the pressure off of the moment of the ceremony. We will have already seen each other and taken our pictures together. It gives us this special moment when it’s just the two of us. We really like that and think it will be best for us.

    Mind you, there are also pros to not doing a first look. Yes, the first look does take off the pressure off and gives us that special moment together, but you could also argue that it takes away from the moment of walking down the aisle too. Like I said, pros and cons to each! You and your fiancé need to weigh the options and decide which will be best for you guys 🙂

    Post # 3
    9718 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    We did a first look. Loved it and glad we did.

    Post # 4
    5005 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2018

    We did! DH didn’t originally want to because he thought it would ruin the whole aisle moment. It didn’t. He still cried during both. When I asked him what his favorite part of the wedding was (besides being married to me), he said it was the first look. 


    Post # 5
    457 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2019 - A historic Art Deco and French Renaissance Theatre

    No first look for me. Everything I’m planning is for that one big moment when he lays eyes on me entering. If things were planned differently then I may have done a first look, but as of right now everything boils down to that one moment. But I say to each their own. Whatever works best for you and what you want. Everyone has their own idea of how they’d like their day to be 🙂

    Post # 6
    606 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2018

    We did a first look and I’m so happy we did. Exchanging vows in front of a crowd already made us both feel vulnerable, which is not necessarily a bad thing, we wanted to share it… but it was really nice to have that most vulnerable, emotional moment just to ourselves. The pictures turned out amazing too. To keep things a tiny bit new for the walk down the aisle I did not put my veil on until the ceremony so that was the first time he saw the full get up. Having a first look beforehand absolutely did not take away from seeing each other as I was coming down the aisle.

    Post # 7
    6496 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    We did not. It is monumentally difficult to move my Dh in an emotional way, and IMO the only way it could have happened was me walking down the aisle being the first time he saw me. It is the one and only time I’ve ever worn a white dress, and he had no idea what my dress would be like. The first look would have definitely taken away from that moment for us. 

    Ultimately, taking pictures before the ceremony is a convenience for the photographer (and sometimes the couple). So it has been repackaged as something special instead of a convenience – a “first look” is a good thing; getting pictures out of the way before the ceremony is a bad or convenience thing. But they’re the same thing in the end. If a couple wants that and if it is special for them, then that’s great. But it wouldn’t have worked for us.

    Post # 8
    234 posts
    Helper bee

    We’re going to be having a first look. We want to have that moment just to ourselves before the ceremony. 

    Post # 9
    160 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2019

    I am definitely considering it! My fiancé is emotional- so I’m hoping to get the tears out of him at the first look so he will somewhat hold it together at the ceremony 🤦🏼‍♀️🤷‍♀️

    Post # 10
    3446 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

    We didn’t do one. We spent the morning together before we parted to get ready. I actually got teary eyed at breakfast! But spending the morning together gave us a chance to share our excitement, get any nervousness out, and still allowed us to have that moment of him seeing me in my dress coming down the aisle for the first time. We both absolutely wanted that moment. His expression was priceless. Since we’d spent most of the morning together, the ceremony felt light and fun. I’m so glad we had that special moment, and for us, seeing each other fully dressed beforehand would have taken something away from that.

    Post # 11
    737 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

    We didn’t have one, I’m not sure it’s even done in the U.K., I’d certainly never heard of it until I started using this site! Even if it was more common, we wouldn’t have gone with it, I liked the idea of him seeing me for the first time at the actual ceremony 

    Post # 12
    1207 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2021 - City, State

    kittycatcat :  


    what she said, not done in the UK, so we aren’t doing one 

    Post # 13
    1257 posts
    Bumble bee

    kittycatcat :   whoswho :  We did one in the UK and loved it. I’d definitely do the same thing again. People were definitely commenting along the lines of ‘what, you’re seeing each other before the ceremony?!’ and I’d point out that we were waking up in the same bed that morning too. We stuck to our guns, and eventually people were saying what a good idea it was.

    If I’d waited until the aisle walk, there’s no way I would’ve heard the ‘wow’, but on our own (well with the photographers!) that was really special.

    Post # 14
    1556 posts
    Bumble bee

    we did it. love it. pros: no nerves walking down the aisle because we’d seen each other and was more relaxed. makeup and hair is perfect in the photos. cons: hair and makeup wasn’t perfect walking down the aisle. it was a hot day! just be sure to make time for a touch up after the photos. 

    Post # 15
    769 posts
    Busy bee

    I’m in the U.K. and we are going to do one. We want a really relaxed wedding day so are going to probably spend the morning together. Split to get ready, then meet in town with close friends and family to relax a bit before the ceremony. 

    I am however considering switching up my look a bit in between stages, just in very small ways – red lipstick, statement jewellery etc to add a bit of excitement to first look / ceremony etc.

    i do also want to walk down the aisle with my fiancé tho. So it will all be a little different I guess. But that’s the beauty of it – if you’re not set on following “tradition” you really can make it whatever you want..

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