(Closed) POLL: Ch-ch-ch-changes at the reception (NOT the bride)

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it OK to for guests to change into casualwear during a semi-formal reception?
    No way. The clothes you wear for the ceremony are the clothes you wear for the whole event. : (73 votes)
    62 %
    It's OK for kids to change into casual clothes, but adults should stay dressy throughout. : (30 votes)
    25 %
    Stop being so uptight -- all your guests should be comfy whenever they want to be! : (15 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    999 posts
    Busy bee

    I think it is wrong for them to change into something that casual.

    But with that being said, it is normal for us to have outfit changes if there is a gap between the ceremony and reception. One wedding I went to the ceremony was at 11 in the morning but the reception wasn’t till 6 that evening. So I along with majority of their guests change for it.

    Post # 4
    1375 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I don’t think I would ever change during a wedding – probably for the after-party, but not during the reception.  But I wouldn’t be bothered if someone decides to change at my wedding.

    Post # 5
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Before I read all the way through, I was going to say its totally fine. A friend of mine had an outdoor wedding that was really cold and windy as the night went on. So naturally people changed back into their jeans, goodies, etc because it was freezing. But inside a hotel banquet room is a bit different. However, they’re kids – not adults. Kids are never totally appropriate. 

    Post # 6
    4352 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Completely weird. The only time this would be acceptable to me is if a child ruined his/her outfit by spilling food on it.

    Or maybe if your reception was next to a pool and guests were encouraged to swim in it.

    Post # 7
    1623 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I agree…a little strange, but definitely not something to get worked up over.  Glad it didn’t affect your mood for the reception! 🙂

    Post # 8
    1975 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    into something a BIT more casual would be fine in my books but sports jerseys and shorts, mmm no. but then again i am paying a fair bit of money for a reception photographer 🙂

    Post # 9
    1696 posts
    Bumble bee

    @vttp926:  It would be perfectly correct — in fact, more correct than not — to change clothes between a formal afternoon ceremony and the formal evening celebration. That is because evening formalwear is very distinctly different from daytime formalwear. That is also why, traditionally, afternoon events do not run past, oh, about four-thirty; so that people have time to dress for the evening.

    It might, conceivably, be correct to change between an informal evening ceremony and a later formal party, if there were a sufficient gap between the two, but more often guests will just dress for the more formal event. Dressing down below the formality of either event, during the reception, is not vulgar so much as it is just … incomprehensible. Why would they do that?

    Post # 10
    1433 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

    Oh my god my aunt did this at our wedding!  She had a long, formal gown on… then I saw her near the end of the night in a casual dress.  It was the weirdest thing EVER.  I didn’t think it was rude because she danced with her nice dress on, I’m more wondering where and when she put on the casual dress. AND WHY!

    Post # 12
    10589 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    It’s a little odd.  I know people who will change between the ceremony and reception, especially if they want to wear something which may not be appropriate for a religious ceremony.

    I’ve switched my shoes as the night has gone on, and I know many men will take off a jacket, but I’ve never seen someone actually go to change.

    Post # 13
    1769 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    That’s a little strange…but I can see why people might do it at a destination wedding (the “hey, we’re on vacation” mentality) – not that it is okay.


    I went to a wedding yesterday and changed between the formal afternoon ceremony and formal evening reception because as PP mentioned daytime formalwear is not similar to evening formal wear – and I wanted to wear two dresses! And I know some of the guys started removing jackets…then ties…then shirts as the evening went on…Thankfully Fiance managed to keep all that (minus the jacket) on all night. Wink

    Post # 15
    1141 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    It doesn’t seem weird to me. I mean if it’s close friends and family eh as long as their having a good time it wouldn’t bother me at all!

    Post # 16
    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Cant really know how to vote. I’d be ticked that my event was changed over to casual looking. But as you say, what can you do?

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