POLL – Did you have a kid-free wedding?

posted 3 months ago in Logistics
  • poll: Did you have a kid-free wedding?
    Yes : (63 votes)
    38 %
    No : (93 votes)
    56 %
    Other : (10 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    5963 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I had a kid free wedding. We didn’t put anything on the invites, just addressed it to each person invited. On our website we said it would be 19+. 

    Post # 3
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    453 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2019 - A historic Art Deco and French Renaissance Theatre

    chillbee29 :  Our website reads “Although we love for kids to laugh and play, this is an Adults Only kind of day! Please join us for an evening filled with fun!” Our invites are not traditional but along with ceremony info briefly state “Adult Cocktail Hour and Reception to follow Ceremony.” I have also talked with guests that have little ones and most of them are all about having a parents night out!

    Post # 4
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    9215 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    “Adults only reception to follow.”

    Sorry not sorry. I know it goes against etiquette but it saved me a ton of headaches.

    I just got an invite recently and it said something similar to “we hope you understand our decision that children are only invited if named”.

    Post # 5
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    1706 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    Yes. I didn’t put on the invitation. I addressed the invites to who was invited and put the number on the rsvp card. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    186 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We did. I was adamant I would not accept any children. We worded our invitations with specific names included and we pre-filled the numbers invited (ie. ___ of 2 guests will be attending). We also spread it by word of mouth to ensure there could be no misunderstanding. 

    Post # 7
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    7131 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    chillbee29 :  we sent out the invitations with the names of the people who were invited. That’s it. We didn’t put anything on the website or make arbitrary age rules about kids or put numbers of seats on RSVP cards.  There were a couple of close cousins who were 9 years old that we decided we wanted there so we included them. There was no confusion and no drama about not inviting other kids. I honestly don’t understand how this is such a problem for other people! 

    Post # 8
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    1978 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

    We only put the names of those invited but I wish we had made it clear that it was a kid-free wedding as a few people assumed their kids were invited and there was a lot of drama with one couple when they found out their kid wasn’t invited. If we’d had a website I would have put it on there.

    Post # 9
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    9375 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    We did not (because we only knew one couple who even had kids so it was pretty much a non-issue for us).  But my SIL is. They put only the adults’ names on the invite and wrote X number of seats are reserved in your honor. And they have note about it being a kid-free event on their website.

    They’ve has drama with one distant relative and ended up just uninviting her but other than that no drama.

    Post # 10
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    1216 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

    We had no kids aside from the ring bearers and flower girls.  On our wedding website, we wrote “Unfortunately we are unable to accomodate children outside of the bridal party.”

    Post # 11
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    2829 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    chillbee29 :  I chose “other”.

    We planned to have a completely child free wedding, we don’t have many friends/family with kids so it wasn’t that big of a deal. My Mother-In-Law did assume she could bring her grandson (toddler) and we told her no, she was disappointed but understood. 

    We ended up letting one couple bring their baby, they had just had the baby like a few weeks before and their parents were out of town so they didn’t have anyone they trusted to watch their brand new baby. Our reception was at a bar and it was inside/outside so they hung out in the outside area that was less noisy and the baby did so well.

    We really wanted that couple to come so we agreed to the baby, as I mentioned though none of our friends or family really have kids so I don’t think it upset anyone else that we allowed that baby and not others. The few people with kids were excited about a kid free night.

    Post # 12
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    11469 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    We invited immediate family children by their name on the invitation. I would rather consider the feelings of those who know how to read and would not have the nerve to add an uninvited guest by not implying the opposite. Worst case, I’d deal with anyone who is rude or uninformed on an individual basis. 

    Post # 13
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    4707 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    We just invited people by name. For the one person that ask I was just honest “we know so many kids we had to keep it to immediate family / babes in arms only”. They still came. We dod have one couple not come because of their kid, but they didn’t expect an invite for him. Their sitter cancelled last minute.

    Post # 14
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    522 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2018 - Four Seasons Hotel Los Angeles at Beverly Hills

    We had no kids at all, not even teenagers or my DH’s cousin’s kids. I don’t have any siblings or nieces and nephews so we didn’t have flower girls or ring bearers. We just put “adults only please” at the bottom of the RSVP cards. We didn’t put it on the invitation itself. 

    Post # 15
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    3246 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

    We put on our website that the wedding was an adult only event, and we understood if that meant some people could not attend but that we would be celebrating with them in spirit, just so there was zero confusion about the fact that their choices were attend without kids or stay home. 

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