Poll: Did you have a professional photographer for the proposal?

posted 1 year ago in Proposals
Post # 46
122 posts
Blushing bee

chyangra :  I was actually a photographer before getting into the field I’m in now, and I’m really passionate about having quality photos of the day we get married. That being said, I personally see a proposal as a more intimate moment shared between the two people making the decision together, and so the thought of someone watching us from behind a lens would sort of take away from living in the moment, to me.

That’s just me, though! Just keep in mind that the logistics of having the proposal photographed will make things quite more complicated for your SO, especially when it comes to timing, and that could take away some of the surprise element. 

Post # 47
3238 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

No we didn’t have a photographer for the proposal, but we did do engagement photos about a month and a half after.

Post # 48
1054 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I was in bed, and wearing only an old t-shirt.  So no, definitely no photographer!

Post # 49
91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2020

Didn’t have a photographer for the engagement, but part of me wanted one to document the big surprise and group effort FH put into the proposal. 

The other part of me was glad I didn’t have one, because all the pictures would have been of me ugly crying. 

Post # 50
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I got the best of both worlds by Darling Husband sneakily setting his phone up to take video ahead of time. The moment was beautiful and private-just us and we got to post this amazing shot to share on social media later : )

Post # 51
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

We didn’t get any photos of the proposal, profesional or not. Having a professional photographer there at such a personal and intimate moment would have felt very strange to me. We had engagement photos done a few months later though.

Post # 52
128 posts
Blushing bee

I’m waiting for the big Proposal, lol….I have hinted to my Boyfriend that all I request is that he surprise me, we are alone (no crowds) and if possible have it secretely video taped so we have it as a memory. Lets see how it turns out 😉 


Post # 53
3837 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

No, my proposal was a surprise and just the two of us on top of a mountain 🙂 perfect imo! He did manage to get a sneaky timer photo but I guess I’m biased toward proposals with at least a bit of a surprise element, so I don’t quite get planning it all out with a photographer. I think a cute selfie is fun! 

Post # 54
207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

C.  If you have the money and want it, then go for it!  Your FH brings up a good point though, as weddings are expensive, and the photography/videography is a big chunk of the budget.  Don’t believe the 10% rule, much closer to 20%, potentially more for a really good one, since it sounds like you are picky with photos.

Post # 55
2015 posts
Buzzing bee

No, probably for the best since Darling Husband proposed randomly in our living room on a Sunday morning after I went to the gym.  

Post # 56
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

No. And I’m glad there wasn’t. Why would I want pictures of me ugly crying with happiness?

Post # 57
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - Green Bay, WI

ME: We had a friend, family member, or self timer take photos


He had friends and family take photos and video.

My fiancé and his brother are both in video production, and we all work in media/design (I’m a multimedia specialist with a graphic design degree). SO, we know a lot of people in the industry that are photographers and videographers. My fiancé proposed to me on the Fourth of July this year (we have an annual party at our house for the holiday) so I unknowingly decorated for and cooked for my own engagement party! When people arrived to our house that day my fiancé had been telling them that around 2pm he was going to propose so people knew to be prepared. I didn’t know and was competely surprised! So when he proposed there was about 30 people at our house (for the party) and a number of them took photos and video for us. His brother took video on his big fancy camera, so that was pretty cool to have. We haven’t done anything with the footage yet, but we have a few really cool angles of photos and video. There’s some video/photos of my view because my Future Sister-In-Law was behind me and there’s other views like this one:


My advice? Find someone you know that has a nice camera and tell them to reach out to your boyfriend or tell your boyfriend to reach out to them! If you know them well I’m sure they’d do it for free.

Post # 58
1147 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Fremont, CA

We didn’t have a professional photographer, but my husband’s mother took a video of it. Since she takes pictures and videos all the time, I never suspected anything.

I cherish that video a lot and have watched it countless times. I’m super grateful she took it. 💖

Post # 60
721 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

chyangra :  We didn’t BUT he had our camera set up so I still got a video and then we took pictures. I used to think I wanted professional pictures but I think our little video turned out well even though it definitely wasn’t professional. He was able to pull this off because throughout our entire relationship we’ve always taken pictures together when we go on little day trips. He had it on video but I just thought we were taking pictures! Let me know if you want to see the video and I can message the link to you! 

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