Post # 1
Sorry if the options I’ve put are bad choices haha.
This is 2015 and each couple does things their own way – if it works for you then hey presto!
But yeah – did you know before he asked you?
Tell us your stories about your pre-engaged selves. 🙂
Post # 2
We were going to visit his parents who are expats but ended up not going because they came to America to meet me instead. He said he was glad we weren’t going so that he could save up to buy me a ring, and I squeed inside!
I had a lot of other exciting work stuff going on, and I never wanted to push him into marriage, so I let things happen organically. He took me to look at e-rings on our one year dating anniversary. I gave him some options and let him pick. I had a suspicion of when he was going to propose, and sure enough, I was right!
Post # 3
Yes and no. Eventually yes, but I thought I had another year. I had a hunch on vacation and couldn’t shake it and (I’m not proud, and it’s okay you can judge me 😉 ) poked through his bag and didn’t find it. It was in his jacket, and we got engaged the next day!! I told him about my crazy moment after and we had a good laugh. He picked the ring out and asked my dad for his blessing/advice and everything. Apparently we’re a pretty traditional couple.
Post # 4
First engagement I was blindsided, not ready for it and it was so awkward. It didnt work out.
This one we discussed marriage, started to plan the wedding, knew he had the ring but was very surprised when he proposed. Much healthier relationship with much better communication and mutual expectation. It worked best for us, to each their own
Post # 5
We had agreed that we wanted to, but his proposal was a TOTAL surprise and reduced me to a crying mess.
Post # 6
I had no idea it was coming, he didn’t really either! We had a conversation one night about our 5 and 10 year goals. He remarked that I didn’t include marriage (I was 19) and I said I figured it’d happen eventually but I wasn’t going to make it a “goal”. So that was the extent of us talking marriage/future. A couple weeks later we were sitting in his car talking about us and where we were headed as a couple, we agreed that we were committed to each other and wanted us to be “it”, then he just kind of blurted it out. I must have asked if he was serious 10 times before agreeing. 11 months later we were married, now we just had our 8th wedding anniversary in May.
Post # 7
I didn’t want to wait forever for a proposal and we had already talked about being married anyway so on our 2nd dating anniversary we decided to announce our engagement. I feel like once both people know they want to be married.. you’re pretty much engaged. The only reason he hadn’t proposed sooner was because he wanted to save up for a ring, but to me lack of money [for something that isn’t essential] is not a good enough reason to put life on hold.
Post # 8
yeah, i knew. we were unofficially engaged for a few months before the actual proposal and i knew he had the ring, i was just waiting for the question. i didn’t know when he was going to ask, but i thought it would be either for my birthday, at the marine corps ball, or during the holidays. it ended up being for my birthday. even though i knew it was coming, it was still a surprise 🙂
Post # 9
lilchicana: I’m unofficially engaged at the moment so I know what you mean! We had a convo a few months ago about our personal timelines and both decided we wanted another 2 years to get married. That convo was one of the best we ever had. Set a date in April 2017 that day. Started planning already. Last month he took me to get a ring designed. It’s probably being made as we speak! I’m waiting for the question and I just know he’s going to do something really personal and sweet! think the anticipation is almost going to make the surprise even more overwhelming haha. 🙂
Post # 10
We had spoken about getting engaged/married every now and then; and then in more detail at the beginning of this year. We went ring shopping once at the end of January and I had picked out everything that I wanted. I thought it would happen within the year, but it happened much sooner than expected… about 3 months after we went ring shopping. I didn’t expect it to happen, but I knew hours before it happened because I could see the box in his pants pocket! LOL
Post # 11
tabbytren: He picked the ring and did a surprise proposal but we had talked about it and I could just kind of feel that it was coming. I knew when he was ring shopping, etc. even though I pretended to buy his weird suddenly vague “errands”, lol.
Post # 12
My Fiance and I grew up together in the same school. I was just a couple years ahead of him. We went on a couple “hangout” dates my Senior year but nothing ever came from it. But we stayed friends. He even held my 1st child at the hospital before her dad did lol. Then we went our separate ways like life sometimes does.
Fast-Forward 18 years. I saw him on Facebook & sent a friend request. He answered me right away & we started talking. Been together ever since, 6 yrs now. We had talked Marriage but neither of us were in any hurry. Then one day he took my youngest daughter (who was 9yrs old at the time) to the store to help pick my ring. Which he just made it look like they were running to the corner store. The next day he used the fact that it was his Dad’s and my Sister’s Birthdays as an excuse to get everyone together. I had No Clue! lol lol. One of the best days of my life! 💖💖💖
Post # 13
In 1992, me and my Fiance (now husband of 22 years) were in a jewelry store and picked out my engagement ring. He paid by check, then was told the check would be held until it cleared, and so he officially proposed, and put the ring on my finger. Then I took it off and handed it back to the cashier, to be held until the check cleared.
Four days later, Fiance went out saying “There is something I have to pick up at the mall!” I said “Oh ok!” And when he came back he proposed again and have been wearing the ring ever since!
Post # 14
Fiance went ring shopping and proposed to me without me knowing anything. He picked the ring and all. I really had no idea but it was a pleasant surprise.
We had discussed marriage but nothing too serious, he was taking his Accounting Designation and we have a condo being built and is ready in December 2016 so I just assumed we would get engaged who knows when but well after he was done school however he proposed last April, a year and a half before he was finished school.
Post # 15
I didn’t have a clue. We spoke of marriage once in our relationship, very early on. But it was never something that was on my “near future” radar.