(POLL) Do you have a gender preference?

posted 3 years ago in TTC
  • poll: If given the chance would you choose the gender? Which gender would you choose?
    I wouldn't choose, but I would prefer a boy. : (28 votes)
    14 %
    I wouldn't choose, but I would prefer a girl. : (63 votes)
    31 %
    I wouldn't choose, and I dont have a preference. : (44 votes)
    21 %
    I would choose, and I would prefer a boy. : (18 votes)
    9 %
    I would choose, and I would prefer a girl. : (45 votes)
    22 %
    I'm not sure. : (8 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 2
    2420 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Sure, you might have the chance to choose gender after PGD…but realistically not all of your embryos will be the same quality. I would choose based on which gives the best rate of success.

    FWIW, we did IVF and did not do PGS/PGD. I used to have a prefrence of what gender I wanted but in all honesty, I am going to be beyond thrilled with whatever baby we have, especially after nearly 3 years of TTC and 3 losses.

    Post # 3
    1329 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2016 - Painswick Church and the Falcon Hotel

    I would not want to choose but would secretly prefer a girl


    Post # 4
    3545 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 29th, 2016

    Excited To Bee :  I have a slight preference for girls, but I grew up in a house full of women! 4 generations from my grandma and mom to my sisters and my niece. I’d be happy with either because a healthy baby is my main concern, but if I already had one of each and wanted a third child, I’d want a girl ๐Ÿ™‚ Twins run on both side of my family so maybe I’ll luck out and have a boy and a girl and be done in one go lol 

    Post # 5
    136 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    I’ve always picrured myself with a girl, so I would hope for a girl. BUT I don’t think I would choose a girl. I’d feel weird about it. I can hear my mom now nagging me about “playing god”. I would be tempted though! 

    Post # 6
    2658 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    I personally wouldn’t choose (as PPs have said, I would choose based on which embryo has the best rate of success) and I don’t really have a preference for either gender. We could all boys or all girls and it wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. DH, on the other hand, really wants at least one of our future children to be a boy (as I have found a lot of males do – some rubbish about “someone to carry on the family name” lol). Even so, I don’t think he would choose either – he’d just cross his fingers that he isn’t outnumbered by girls.

    Post # 8
    2123 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

    Excited To Bee :  I’m currently expecting a boy we chose through IVF PGD as we already have a girl so it makes sense to balance the family ๐Ÿ™‚ If it’s your first I’d just go with the highest grade embryo unless you have a strong personal preference <3 

    Post # 9
    3859 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I used to have a preference for a girl but after 3 years TTC and 2 rounds of IVF I honestly have zero preference anymore. I would be sooo thrilled with either! That’s crazy they will let you choose! Our clinc’s policy so they won’t even let you know, let alone choose. I could never choose, though! I would go with the best quality.

    Post # 10
    463 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    Neither hus nor I have a preference. We would love one of each, he wants 4 and wants twins, but that’s because it’s not his body that has to carry and give birth to them. 

    If you have to choose, choose the strongest or the one with the highest chance of creating a healthy pregnancy. 

    Best of luck! 


    Post # 11
    4060 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I agree, I would go with the best quality embie, but I don’t see anything wrong with choosing if say you have one of each of the same quality. 

    I always wanted a boy, so all else being equal, I would have chosen that…

    Post # 12
    1365 posts
    Bumble bee

    If I had the option to choose and everything else about the embryo quality was equal, I would choose a girl. So would H. We only want one child and have a strong preference for a girl, and I would take that opportunity if it were presented. I will say that we are experiencing infertility and I would happily take a healthy child of either sex. 

    Post # 15
    6445 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    I may be in the minority, but if you have a strong gender preference and all other things are equal, then YES, choose the gender you would prefer. There are thousands of couples around the world who would prefer and go to great lengths to have a boy, so if your choice is a girl, I say make that happen if you can. I was very lucky to have the sex/genders we preferred in the order we wanted, but if I’d had the chance to choose? I’d have done it, absolutely. 

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