Post # 1
I was told today that my IVF +PGD will give me the opportunity to select the gender if we would like. I’m on the fence of if I should or not, I have a slight preference but am also concerned that I will feel guilty choosing one over the other, so bees, if given the chance would you choose and what gender would you choose?
I obviously know that I may only have one or the other as an option, I am just speaking in hypotheticals and curious of how others feel. 🙂
Post # 2
Sure, you might have the chance to choose gender after PGD…but realistically not all of your embryos will be the same quality. I would choose based on which gives the best rate of success.
FWIW, we did IVF and did not do PGS/PGD. I used to have a prefrence of what gender I wanted but in all honesty, I am going to be beyond thrilled with whatever baby we have, especially after nearly 3 years of TTC and 3 losses.
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2016 - Painswick Church and the Falcon Hotel
I would not want to choose but would secretly prefer a girl
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 29th, 2016
Excited To Bee : I have a slight preference for girls, but I grew up in a house full of women! 4 generations from my grandma and mom to my sisters and my niece. I’d be happy with either because a healthy baby is my main concern, but if I already had one of each and wanted a third child, I’d want a girl 🙂 Twins run on both side of my family so maybe I’ll luck out and have a boy and a girl and be done in one go lol
Post # 5
I’ve always picrured myself with a girl, so I would hope for a girl. BUT I don’t think I would choose a girl. I’d feel weird about it. I can hear my mom now nagging me about “playing god”. I would be tempted though!
Post # 6
I personally wouldn’t choose (as PPs have said, I would choose based on which embryo has the best rate of success) and I don’t really have a preference for either gender. We could all boys or all girls and it wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. DH, on the other hand, really wants at least one of our future children to be a boy (as I have found a lot of males do – some rubbish about “someone to carry on the family name” lol). Even so, I don’t think he would choose either – he’d just cross his fingers that he isn’t outnumbered by girls.
Post # 7
Yes I would choose a girl.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017
Excited To Bee : I’m currently expecting a boy we chose through IVF PGD as we already have a girl so it makes sense to balance the family 🙂 If it’s your first I’d just go with the highest grade embryo unless you have a strong personal preference <3
Post # 9
I used to have a preference for a girl but after 3 years TTC and 2 rounds of IVF I honestly have zero preference anymore. I would be sooo thrilled with either! That’s crazy they will let you choose! Our clinc’s policy so they won’t even let you know, let alone choose. I could never choose, though! I would go with the best quality.
Post # 10
Neither hus nor I have a preference. We would love one of each, he wants 4 and wants twins, but that’s because it’s not his body that has to carry and give birth to them.
If you have to choose, choose the strongest or the one with the highest chance of creating a healthy pregnancy.
Best of luck!
Post # 11
I agree, I would go with the best quality embie, but I don’t see anything wrong with choosing if say you have one of each of the same quality.
I always wanted a boy, so all else being equal, I would have chosen that…
Post # 12
If I had the option to choose and everything else about the embryo quality was equal, I would choose a girl. So would H. We only want one child and have a strong preference for a girl, and I would take that opportunity if it were presented. I will say that we are experiencing infertility and I would happily take a healthy child of either sex.
Post # 13
I agree, best quality will probably win (hopefully there’s multiple great quality embryos) but I can’t help but hope it’s a little girl. We are only having one, so it’s kinda my only shot for a girl! A little boy would be fun, I will be equally excited for either, and my husband will be an amazing dad to either, so it’s a win-win!
Post # 14
MrsYoshida : Congratulations! I am so nervous for this process. If you don’t mind me asking, how long did PGD add to your entire cycle? They’re telling me it could add anywhere from 1 to 4 months to create the probe and test the embryos.
Post # 15
I may be in the minority, but if you have a strong gender preference and all other things are equal, then YES, choose the gender you would prefer. There are thousands of couples around the world who would prefer and go to great lengths to have a boy, so if your choice is a girl, I say make that happen if you can. I was very lucky to have the sex/genders we preferred in the order we wanted, but if I’d had the chance to choose? I’d have done it, absolutely.