(Closed) Poll: Do you invite everyone the bride/groom wants to the bachelor(ette) party?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
  • poll: When planning a bachelor party would you ever purposefully not invite someone bride/groom wanted?
    Yes, because ... : (9 votes)
    30 %
    No, because ... : (19 votes)
    63 %
    It depends, because ... : (2 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 2
    8575 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    If the bride or groom wanted them there.. I’d invite them.

    Unless of course they wanted like a 30 person bachelorette.. that’s a little crazy.

    Post # 3
    3276 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    No, I’d invite everyone they wanted. My Maid/Matron of Honor is best friends with DH’s ex, who I also used to be friends with. I know we’d invite each other to events for the bride because it’s her party. 

    Post # 4
    263 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    It depends (I even voted) on who he wants me to bring. If it’s someone i’ve know for awhile that’s a and I get along with them then i’d just give in but I wouldn’t invite his best friends wife because I barely know the girl. 

    Bachelorette parties are a time for you to celebrate with YOUR friends, not HIS friends…. unless your friend is also his friend….

    • This reply was modified 5 years, 1 month ago by  SomethingNovel. Reason: typo
    Post # 5
    1883 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Nope, I would never purposefully not invite someone the bride/groom asked for. Even though I’m the one planning, it’s not my party, it’s the bride/groom’s party, so I don’t get final say in the invite list.

    If I had a serious problem inviting someone due to history of abuse for example, I would let the bride/groom know I felt unsafe. They could then make the call whether they wanted this person anyway or I’d step away from being the main planner.

    Post # 6
    9916 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I just voted wrong.  Of course I’d invite everyone the person wanted.  

    Post # 7
    3081 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    laceydoilies:  yes since it’s a party for the bride/groom and he or she should be asked who they want invited since it’s a party for them. 


    Post # 8
    1244 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

    It’s their party, they get the say. If they want to invite someon the planner doesn’t approve of … well, no one is holding a gun to the planner’s head, right? They can not plan or not come.

    Post # 10
    7643 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    laceydoilies:  Absolutely not, I would never go against the bride’s wishes. If the bride wanted her there, I’d 100% invite her. If this girl is my worst enemy, well I’d just send the invite and let my enemy decide whether to accept.

    EDIT: Stay out of it! Your fiance – not you – should be discussing the guest list with the best man.

    Post # 12
    7643 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    laceydoilies:  OK, I’ve read your post (just above my last one) more carefully and now I understand. I think you did the right thing texting the Bridesmaid or Best Man. But you’ve done all you can do. In the end, the party is the responsibility of the Bridesmaid or Best Man and GMs, and if they organise a party which isn’t the greatest, that’s their fault not yours. I know you want Fiance to have a great party, but it’s not up to you.

    Post # 13
    9544 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I have definitely always invited everyone that the bride/groom wanted there. I would have been pretty annoyed if my Maid/Matron of Honor decided not to invite some of the people on my list.

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