Post # 1
I’m at work, and in the mail I just received a short love note from my Fiance. He started doing this after realizing how much he loved receiving them from me. (He also likes them because he’s not always great at expressing himself off-the-cuff, but finds it easier to sit down and think about what he wants to say.) After a bad week, or for no reason at all, love letters just make me unspeakably happy! All the better if they’re actually stamped and sent through the post.
I was just wondering if others do this too. And if not, what do you do to show your S.O. how much they mean to you?
Post # 2
We used to write each other on a daily basis (LDR, instant messenger was a thing then) but once we were in the same house, I can’t even get him to respond to a normal email I might send during the day. I wouldn’t mind a little of that now and then to know he’s thinking of me – it was never, ever a soppy love letter though, more inside jokes and talking about life. Mushy stuff makes us both gag.
How we show our affection now is a big hug when he gets home from work (I’m always home first), making him treats he likes, him buying me random things we need while he’s in town (again, shows he’s been thinking of me even though whatever it is will never be romantic), things like that. Once in awhile he does something totally ordinary that makes me swoon because even though it’s just a normal thing, it’s sweet of him – I can’t even think of an example offhand, though.
Post # 3
I think they’re sweet but outdated, to me, a sweet text message does the exact same thing and is free.
Post # 4
I totally get it! The mailing thing comes from my dad, who always sent our birthday cards in the mail even when we lived at home. He told us that it showed thought and planning, and made it more special. So that stuck! We don’t mail all our notes, but the ones we do just hit me right in the heart a little bit more.
Post # 5
I think handwritten notes or letters are lovely, and definitely not outdated. I do think it’s different than a text or an email to get something someone actually physically wrote. I enjoy having a piece of paper or a card that I can save and look back on. When we first started dating SO and I wrote each other notes/letters occasionally, and we write each other personal cards for Valentines, etc. Now that we live together we see more of each other, though, so we don’t really write each other with any regularity. But I think my SO would love it if I slipped a note into his work bag, and I’d certainly love it if he did that for me. 🙂
We mostly show affection by being… well, affectionate with each other. Lots of hugs and kisses and we tell each other that we love each other and all that frequently throughout the day. We don’t do a whole lot of grand gestures… more little “acts of service”, like I’ll pack lunches for him or he’ll pick up something he knows I need/want.
Post # 6
Not going to lie, if my husband mailed something to me while living in the same household, my first response would probably be anger that he wasted money on a stamp. Sweet if you’re into it though.
Post # 7
There’s no poll option for me, we don’t write them and don’t wish we did but I don’t think it’s outdated if others want to.
Post # 8
Since we met online, our first interactions were through email. The emails are adorbs! We don’t do paper love notes nowadays, but if I leave for work or workout before DH wakes up, I leave him a paper note, which he thinks is cute.
Post # 9
My current so and I do not, but we text and email lovey dovey stuff back and forth during the days we don’t see each other (We don’t live together yet and work opposite shifts).
My ex and I used to, and honestly after the experience i went thru with him using them to try and get back at me after our breakup, a love letter in traditional form would not be possible. But I do love the sentiment and care behind them.
Post # 10
We don’t send anything through the post, but on special occasions we tend to write love notes/letters inside cards. I’ve saved all the ones DH has given me.
Post # 11
We do little notes to each other and have done longer letters less frequently.
I usually pack DH’s lunch and sometimes I stick a note in there. When I travel for work, he will sometimes hide a sticky note with a sweet note in my toiletry case.
Post # 12
My Fiance and I don’t really beyond text messages but I’ve created an email for him that he doesn’t know about and for the next 6 months ( until our wedding day ) I’ll write to him. I’ll give him the address and password the morning of our wedding 😊
Post # 13
Wouldn’t like it being mailed – probably would say what a waste of time “mailing” but would love it if he just gave it to me or left it on the kitchen counter top!
We have a little whiteboard stuck on the fridge and we sometimes write little notes there for each other but it only happens occasionally.
We used to write emails to each other and long text messages and cards before we got married.
Post # 14
We started dating in high school, so we wrote each other hundreds of love letters and notes (most of which I still have) and we have just continued to do that into our marriage. She also writes me emails while she’s at work and I leave her post its around the house for when she’s getting ready in the morning (usually on the shower door or in the closet by her clothes).
Post # 15
That is a super adorable idea!