(Closed) Poll for Bees with Children – do you regret having them – never, always or some

posted 6 years ago in Babies
  • poll: If you have children how do you feel now
    I wanted children and I have never regretted it : (22 votes)
    43 %
    I wanted children and I have sometimes regretted it : (4 votes)
    8 %
    I wanted children and I have regretted it most of the time : (1 votes)
    2 %
    I did not want children but I have 1 or more and I have never regretted it : (2 votes)
    4 %
    I did not want children but I have 1 or more and I have sometimes regretted it : (1 votes)
    2 %
    I did not want children but I have 1 or more and I have regretted it most of the time : (1 votes)
    2 %
    I was not sure if I wanted children but I have 1 or more and I have never regretted it : (2 votes)
    4 %
    I was not sure if I wanted children but I have 1 or more and I have sometimes regretted it : (3 votes)
    6 %
    I was not sure if I wanted children but I have 1 or more and I haveregretted it most of the time : (2 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    8042 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @unixfairy:  I am interested in what people have to say! Gah that would suck to regret having children…

     

    Post # 4
    Member
    2401 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I have always wanted kids. Even though I had her at 18 I never have regretted her. She has made me a stronger person today.

    Post # 5
    Member
    5762 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Have them, always wanted them, never a single regret.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1716 posts
    Bumble bee

    CFBC currently but…

    I have an ex roommate who totally regrets having a child. The sad thing is the kid knows it now. The kid is almost 18, but came to the conclusion She wants to be a He.

    and now Mom, started dating this guy a year ago and constantly talks about how she can really be a mom now with a real little girl.

    I love the kiddo, and I really hate his Mom. I just…I mean she constantly talked about how she wish she never had a kid before she met this new guy and now “having a new daughter” is just the coolest thing ever!

    My heart breaks for that kid everyday.

    Post # 7
    Member
    790 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I think the last option before “other”: I was not sure if I wanted children but I have 1 or more and I have never regretted it

    Should be:

    I was not sure if I wanted children but I have 1 or more and I have regretted it most of the time

    Just a heads up! I don’t have children but am very interested in this topic.

    Post # 8
    Member
    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Never wanted kids, but have one & now want a 2nd lol. Can’t say I’ve ever regretted it, but I have wondered once or twice, on my worst days, what life would be like without. Does that count? Moments of doubt few & far between? It’s hard to say.

    Post # 9
    Member
    5273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I don’t have children, and I am only basing this on my personal experiences with the interactions I have had with woman, typically older, who have children who aren’t babies (ages 6 – 16)

    But, I have had multiple women with tween/early teen children, who have told me that while they love their children and are so happy they had them; that looking back they wish they would have not had children. The reasons varied from “its too hard” “emotionally draining” and other things along those lines.  

    Obviously this is in no way a consensus of all mothers, but I find it interesting that in my personal interactions with multiple mothers, when we have a deep conversation regarding me not wanting to have children, many of them have stated the sentiments above. Personally, I think it is very honorable to be so honest. 

    Post # 10
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    9690 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I have a son.  I always wanted children and being a mother is the greatest blessing I could have ever imagined.  I am thankful for my beautiful child every single moment of my life.  He’s a complete joy.  Never any regrets, not for a moment.

    Post # 11
    Member
    3368 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I have moments when I wonder if I am doing a good enough job as mother and that fear could lead to regretting having children.  I don’t resent the kids themselves. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    2831 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I don’t have kids yet but I have been going back and forth.

    I have always wanted to be a mom and have a family of my own; but now that a lot of people around me are having kids I’m starting to change my mind. I don’t want to have to work after I have kids. I want to be able to raise them myself. I can’t see myself having the strength to work FT and raise a family, especially babies.

    I can’t see us ever in a position where I would be able to stay at home to raise a family.

    It really saddens me and fear that I would regret the decision to have kids, knowing that we probably shouldn’t have done so.

     

    Post # 13
    Member
    2638 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2006

    I always did NOT want children until I met my husband, then it just kind of seemed liked something I would want to do with him. I’m pregnant now and very curious to see this poll after more people have voted.

    Post # 14
    Member
    1659 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Darling Husband and I had Dirty Delete unplanned and she’s two and a half.  Not a trace of regret, and we’re TTC #2.  I love our little family 🙂

    Post # 15
    Member
    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @jjmomma:  

    could’ve written this myself! Darn moms who post all their domestic acheivements on fbook- they’re making our mommy guilt worse 😉

    Post # 16
    Member
    1086 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I did NOT want a child when I got pregnant. I was with a jerk and was trying to leave so getting pregnant kinda set that back a bit. I cried when I found out, not the happy tears. I had a panic attack when I got home.

     

    I wanted kids, just not at that time and not with that person.

     

    But I don’t regret her for a second. She’s been MY baby since she was born, it gets hard at times and I look at other family members and friends who haven’t had a child yet going out to parties and sleeping all day, but then I remember her first steps, when she learned the phrase “not nice” I remember her smile, her dancing like a ballerina, I just think about her and couldn’t regret having her for a second.

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