(Closed) Poll for pregnant ladies – Do your friends have babies/children?

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: How many of your good friends have babies?
    None! : (19 votes)
    23 %
    1-2 : (22 votes)
    27 %
    3-5 : (17 votes)
    21 %
    5-10 : (9 votes)
    11 %
    Everybody in my life has babies! : (14 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 2
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    156 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Will you be going to ante-natal classes local to where you live? I gather that’s a good way to meet local moms. Also, there are likely to be mother-and-baby groups in your area too.

     

    (If I remember correctly, Miranda chose to be alone because she was too shy and/or scared of the other mothers in her building)

    Post # 4
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    amanda3334455:  omg ha! you did just make the same post/poll as me pretty much less than 24 hrs ago! well, thanks for commenting on mine… you are not alone either πŸ™‚ Although I think I’m more worried about being lonely while pregnant than once I have a baby…I feel like I’m reading nonstop for a class that none of my friends are in and I have no one to study with…

    Post # 6
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    787 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    amanda3334455:  My husband and I are the only ones in our circle expecting a baby. We do have one other couple friend who is starting to TTC right now but all our other friends are either single or in that space between moving in together and thinking about engagement. I usually attribute it to the fact that I’m a year older than his friends and almost ALL of my old small-town friends from childhood have multiple children, where it was kind of expected that you’d have children by 25. He’s 26, I’m 27.

    Post # 7
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    927 posts
    Busy bee

    None of my closer friends have kids yet, but now 4 of us are pregnant at the same time coincidentally! 

    Post # 8
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    1214 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Yeah life is about to change big time for you. Your friends will have different priorities than you do, but that’s okay. It reminds me of that cheesy girl scouts song. Shall I sing it for you? Haha… Make new friends, but keep the old, one is silver and the other gold. But in all seriousness, you might feel a tad jealous of their continuing freedom or wish that they would understand why you don’t want to go out every Saturday night. I had a lot of feelings when I was the only mom out of my friends. It just depends on what you do with those feelings. My mom and I got a lot closer and I met another lady in the neighborhood who had kids too. So we started hanging out in all our free time πŸ˜‰

    Post # 9
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    3378 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    My husband and I don’t have any close friends with kids (we’re 29 and expecting our first any day now).  We have some friends/acquaintances from high school and college who have one or two, but none of them live close to us.  My brother told me that you end up meeting a lot of other parents once you have kids, especially once they’re old enough to start getting involved in activities.  I plan to look into local mommy groups (especially since I’ll be staying at home, and I feel like I’m going to need that social network), and once my daughter is a little older look into play groups/community toddler activities, storytimes, etc.

    Post # 10
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    261 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m the only one of my close friends who is pregnant and IT’s very scary sometimes. I feel like I go on and on about my pregnancy symptoms and I must be boring them which worries me too I just don’t have anything else to report as iv had such a difficult pregnancy. Both girls are very patient and one in particular is thinking of trying at the end of the year but I feel I am setting the path for them to learn from and I almost wish I wasn’t first so I could learn from them. I’m scared we will drift apart after baby is born though. We usually ser each other every Friday for a meal or just a coffee and catch up and one friend said she is gonna have to adapt to not see me as much. I promised I would try so hard to always share my Fridays with them even of some weeks they have to visit me at home or I have to bring baby. My partner is very supportive and believes I should still have a fee hours on a Friday to myself and my friends as he will take baby and o don’t go clubbing or anything like that so it shouldn’t be a problem. Does that sound ok or am I being selfish? Scary… 

    • This reply was modified 4 years, 8 months ago by  Carritas27.
    Post # 11
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    3697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    My friends all have kids that will actually be a few years older than our child.  I do have family with similar aged children – one nephew will be about 18mo and a niece will not quite be 1.  Then my cousin is due in September after our June baby.  

    Post # 12
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    6524 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    amanda3334455:  i am going through this now. i was the first to get married in my circle, and that caused a huge shift in my relationships with my girlfriends even though they all were in serious relationships. And now I am the first to have a baby. I do have one friend who I am very close with, even though she lives about 6 hours away who also has a baby. My friends that live near me, we have drifted because we are just in two different places. They are still in the going out to bars, girl weekends trips away from home, etc, whereas me, I come home from work, clean the house, don’t go out to bars because 1) i am pregnant and 2) i am just over that phase of my life and have been for quite some time but occasaionally met up with them for drinks if it was someones bday, we also are saving money for a house, so going awya on weekends and spending a couple of hundred dollars is not a priority to me. Luckily, Darling Husband and I have a weekend/vacation home about 2 hours away that we can go to when we need to get out of the city. 

    I am not worried about drifting even farther away from the cirlce because if someone wants to be a part of my life, they will be, I am not going to go chasing people and begging for people to be my friend. I am very close with DHs family and there are a lot of kids in his family, so our baby won’t be lonely or friendless. He/she will have a lot of cousins, and I am sure that I will make some mommy friends at some point.

    Post # 13
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    1246 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Most of my friends already have babies/kids or are currently pregnant, although none of them live near us, so I understand the feeling of isolation. I can’t wait to get out of the first trimester and start telling them, because I could really use the supprt. I’m hoping that prenatal classes and baby/new mom activities will be a good source of friends locally!

    Post # 15
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    2514 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    amanda3334455:  Some of my friends had children last year, others are single, or childless by choice.  I don’t see a huge issue.  Obviously nights out bar hopping to the wee hours will be few and far between — but to be honest, they already are.   

    I’m sure I’ll lose touch with a few friends.  I’m equally as certain that some acquaintances will become better friends just due to our situations.  And I’ll meet new friends, maybe other moms, etc.  

    This isn’t just a baby thing.  I’ve found this comes along with all life changes.  Any time there’s a big life event and change I’ve found my friend circle changes a bit.  But there definitely are friends that are a constant, through everything.  

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